Are you thinking of getting a divorce because: Your spouse is physically or verbally abusive with you or with your children? Your spouse is an alcoholic or drug addict and has no intention of dealing with the addiction? Your spouse has a gambling addiction and is causing financial hardship? You want to have a baby and you thought your spouse wanted a child too, but now says he or she doesn't?
We have all heard the saying that relationships take work and a commitment to make them work. It is true that relationships are not always easy but when should you draw the line on general relationship woes verses destructive relationship issues? Staying in a destructive relationship tears down your self-esteem, drains the positive energy from you and can also bring out the worse in you. It is just as important to know the signs that it is time for you to walk away, as it is to know when true love has shown up at your doorstep.
Are you greeting each new day with optimism and energy or are you feeling a bit lackluster? Are you dragging in the morning, slogging through mental, physical, and emotional quicksand throughout your work day, when school lets out, or any of those other times you want – and need - to be bright, cheery, energetic? Whether one is in transition or not, there are times in our lives when we lack that extra oomph, that shine, that spark that makes all things possible – even doable. Why is that?
Last spring I was part of this great panel of professionals who discussed the pros and cons of how the Internet has effected our relationships. At the end of the hour, I was asked to give a few tips for couples who wanted to affair-proof their Internet use. “Really,” I said. “It just boils down to a big dose of common sense.” To avoid an online affair the three main areas to pay close attention to are:
The New Year is here and there is the promise of new possibilities! Many-Many years ago -in a land- Far- Far away... I let go of the habit of making new years resolutions. I loved looking ahead to the new year and got jazzed about the new possibilities I could see. New Years resolutions seemed to me, to be more about changing something I didn’t like rather then aiming for what I really wanted.
Taking a look at marriage breakups makes me question the beliefs we hold based on cheating. I feel strongly enough about cheating to voice my opinion as a mistress. There’s a need for us to address and face our “self love” and “vanity” as both lead us to believe we have the rights to own each other, especially if we are married to the person. Many are unaware that we are composite parts that relate to the three aspects to our being.
By Nellie Akalp for GalTime.com How one couple makes it work in a tough economy. Throughout the holidays, we all should unplug from our careers to focus on family, friends, and whatever else for which we're thankful. As I reflect, it's easy to focus on my four children, including my 6 month-old daughter, who bring purpose and meaning to my life.
Being in what I call a “pain cycle” is being in a love relationship where the pain of loving that person overtakes the positive aspects of the love you share. Examples of pain cycles are relationships where you feel like you are on an emotional rollercoaster. Where you feel betrayed or your emotional and physical needs in love are not being met and you deeply suffer, as a result.
In 23 years of reading for my clients, I clearly saw self defeating patterns rising again and again no matter what clients tried to change direction. When I realized I was being shown a Map, my coaching and instruction changed radically. Maps can be studied, read, consulted and counted on.
I’m stepping into a bigger, more sparkly pair of big girl shoes today. For the last month I’ve been trying to figure out how to “package” my dual- and seemingly unrelated- message of love and abundance. I tried being clever and coming up with a cool acronym. I actually came up with a really cool one for peace (Personal Empowerment and Community Engagement- wouldn’t that create peace?) but couldn’t easily assign that any relevance to my work.