I’ve worked with many individuals over the years – students and clients alike – and one place I see people getting in their own way with relationships is when they put their relationships and dating life in a box. When you cling to a vision of what a relationship should look like, you become attached and set yourself up for disappointment whenever the other person doesn’t match the picture you created. Let me give you an example of a couple I worked with, Rhonda & Warren (not their real names)…
So, you’ve picked out the perfect 12 red roses, and scheduled their delivery; dinner reservations are set for 8 o’clock. In the midst of picking out the perfect card for your significant other, you begin to consider everything that you’ve been through together, and there’s no card that really fits your current situation. These days, the happiness you once felt, is peppered with confusion and concerns for your collective future. But, that’s okay.
Today is the perfect day to do a romantic life check-up, where you take account of what you have~and compare it to what you want. If it's off at all, this is a good time to assess if you are in the right relationship or not. One clue to knowing if you are with the wrong man, is to notice the patterns of your relationship.
Americans are virtually obsessed with the normality of their sexual fantasies, preferences, responses, frequency, secrets, turn-offs, problems, and bodies. The fear of being sexually abnormal interferes with, and even prevents, pleasure and intimacy. The most common sexual question is "Am I normal?"
You don't have plans for a romantic Valentine's Day celebration with a beloved partner? Don't let that stop you from finding love today. How? By shifting your Love Focus. Instead of focusing on the romantic love you lack, which steals your joy, stay focused on giving thanks for all the love in your life. Celebrate love on V-day by thanking people who've made a difference in your life, by sharing smiles and friendly words with people you see in your daily routines, by being kind and loving to yourself.
I know. It’s that holiday again. The one where it seems like all of the women in the office are getting a big, gorgeous bouquet of flowers except you. Where you feel like there may as well be a big sign over your desk with an arrow pointing down saying “I don’t have anybody to send me flowers!”
Happy Valentine’s Day! Or, as I used to call it when I ran my website BreakupChronicles.com, Happy Breakup Celebration Day. Whether you find yourself celebrating The Ones Who Got Away (Thank God!) or The One, it’s important to remember that February 14th is just a day like any other. But…because the world around us sends us messages about Love today, telling us we’re lucky if we HAVE a loving partner, and we’re lacking if we DON’T, I wanted to touch base and ask you something important…
Mary's husband walked in the door with a beautiful creamy box wrapped up with a red ribbon. He twinkled his eyes as he lovingly leaned over and gave her a kiss and presented her with her favorite chocolates. It was their Valentine’s Day tradition, and she always loved him for it. She also hated him for it. She knew that one bite would lead to devouring the box, regretting it and craving for more sweets in the weeks ahead. But, she couldn't wait to sink her teeth into that dark, rich chocolately raspberry filled nugget hiding under the lid!
If this is your first year being single after years of being married, don’t sit at home wallowing in the what if’s or if only’s decide to take charge of your life, get out and do something fun just for yourself. Valentine’s Day does not just have to be about romantic love, you can celebrate the love of your family as well as self-love. Here are 7 Ways a Divorced Woman Can Celebrate Valentine's Day:
Is your marriage or relationship lackluster? Are you hoping a night of hearts, chocolate and flowers will add a little romantic boost to your union? Usually Valentine's Day comes up short on reconnecting love. We buy the usual pink and red gifts and sign our names on the same 'ol cards, but we never wake up the day after feeling more connected to our partner. I worked in the restaurant business for a while and Valentine's Day always killed me.