Are you in a rocky relationship? Feeling resentful, anxious, distant, or lonely in your situation? Whether you have been dating for two months or married for 10 years, things can go south all too easily in a couple. Yet there is nothing quite as painful as when things are falling apart, when you know that your love might be lost forever. Can I turn it all around, you wonder? Is it even possible now?
“All you’re good for is sex anyway!” With those words he walked out and she buried her head in the pillow, crying herself to sleep. ‘She’ could be any man or woman dealing with verbal abuse, but we’ll call her Renee. Renee loves her boyfriend, but hates the way he speaks to her. She often wonders, “How could someone show me so much love one day and rip me apart with names like that, the next?”
This time of year there is typically a lot of attention on creating something new—a new healthy lifestyle, a new relationship, a new job, a new attitude, and so on. Focusing on creating something new or better is great. That’s why we call it the New Year. However, in our excitement to have something new and better, we often jump ahead of ourselves when it comes to taking on our new year’s resolutions. One of the most important steps in creating change and transformation is letting go of the past and letting go of the old.
Many of us are looking to change something in our lives: Have less stress and anxiety, feel better, be happier, increase confidence, know our life path and more. Yoga and meditation are really fantastic tools to help us with these things and so much has been written on how and why they help. But if we really want to change our external world and not just our internal world, we need to take what we learn in our practice and bring it out into the world. The path to doing this is through a relationship.
Living resiliently represents a whole new way of being and doing. In this way, resilience isn't just for the hard times...it's for all times. Empowering us to live, love, and work adventurously in the face of change, it builds a well from which we can draw for the rest of our lives.
According to research by Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri, while 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce, 67 percent of second marriages and 74 percent of third marriages end in divorce. Is this surprising?
“A good way to change someone’s attitude is to change your own, because the same sun that melts butter hardens clay.” – Unknown The New Year is a time of transformation in your relationship. You know what didn’t work, and you know what sometimes worked, so it’s time to prepare to get your relationship back on track. We spend a lot of money and time buying our gym memberships and cookbooks to get our body in shape, but we forget our relationship needs a plan too. Your relationship can be neglected in all types of ways. Letting your body go, using food, cigarettes, alcohol or drugs to manage chronic stress all affect how we relate to ourselves as well as our partner. We get bombarded with losing weight ads, new healthy foods to try, as well as new exercise workouts. The best workout for your relationship and the quickest way to feel connected and encouraged in your relationship is to have sex with your partner.
It is possible to bring yourself to a powerful orgasm while sitting absolutely still with no movement, physical stimulation, or friction whatsoever. Many women have testified to having the ability to produce a full-on “mindgasm” during meditation, or rather a self-hypnosis type of technique. It is a matter of having focused intention, good muscle control and rhythmic deep breathing.
Don't ever say you can't, because you can. You can always make it happen at the eleventh hour, just before the buzzer or when your back is against the wall. For most people, pressure is what pushes us through resistance, mental blocks and mediocrity. Although this is normal human behavior, it also means that you CAN do better. You CAN gain control over your time management, stress levels, perceived obstacles and excuses.
I’m a big believer in universal energy. I believe that everything in the universe is on loan to us to leverage as we need. I believe that we are born to love and born to be loved. I believe that it is EVERYONE’S divine right to experience rich, gorgeous, healthy, sustainable love. But what I don’t believe is that all you need to do is sit around and wait for it to come. I don’t believe that if you simply wish upon a star or throw a penny in a fountain, that a prince on white horse will come your way.