Both parents and spouses can be guilty of a habit that undermines relationships. That is the habit of speaking up only to point out what’s wrong while letting good behaviors pass without comment. We all need to take responsibility for making our families an encouraging place to be. No relationship can thrive in an atmosphere of criticism. In fact criticism is so destructive that John Gottman dubbed it one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse – major destroyers of relationships.
The New Year is an exciting time full of possibility. It is a time for change and new beginnings. It is often a time designated to evaluate one's current situation—both personally and professionally—and to make proclamations (resolutions) about how things can improve or grow.
By Malia Karlinsky, GalTime Love/Sex Editor Sad news about one of Hollywood's hottest couples--Russell Brand has filed for divorce from wife Katy Perry. The news about the break-up does not come as a complete surprise.
Regardless of who loves whom more, the chances of finding a fulfilling romantic relationship are ultimately better if you know how to take care of yourself, meet your own needs, and be satisfied -- physically, emotionally and even sexually -- on your own.
Are you thinking of getting a divorce because: Your spouse is physically or verbally abusive with you or with your children? Your spouse is an alcoholic or drug addict and has no intention of dealing with the addiction? Your spouse has a gambling addiction and is causing financial hardship? You want to have a baby and you thought your spouse wanted a child too, but now says he or she doesn't?
We have all heard the saying that relationships take work and a commitment to make them work. It is true that relationships are not always easy but when should you draw the line on general relationship woes verses destructive relationship issues? Staying in a destructive relationship tears down your self-esteem, drains the positive energy from you and can also bring out the worse in you. It is just as important to know the signs that it is time for you to walk away, as it is to know when true love has shown up at your doorstep.
Are you greeting each new day with optimism and energy or are you feeling a bit lackluster? Are you dragging in the morning, slogging through mental, physical, and emotional quicksand throughout your work day, when school lets out, or any of those other times you want – and need - to be bright, cheery, energetic? Whether one is in transition or not, there are times in our lives when we lack that extra oomph, that shine, that spark that makes all things possible – even doable. Why is that?
Last spring I was part of this great panel of professionals who discussed the pros and cons of how the Internet has effected our relationships. At the end of the hour, I was asked to give a few tips for couples who wanted to affair-proof their Internet use. “Really,” I said. “It just boils down to a big dose of common sense.” To avoid an online affair the three main areas to pay close attention to are:
The New Year is here and there is the promise of new possibilities! Many-Many years ago -in a land- Far- Far away... I let go of the habit of making new years resolutions. I loved looking ahead to the new year and got jazzed about the new possibilities I could see. New Years resolutions seemed to me, to be more about changing something I didn’t like rather then aiming for what I really wanted.
Taking a look at marriage breakups makes me question the beliefs we hold based on cheating. I feel strongly enough about cheating to voice my opinion as a mistress. There’s a need for us to address and face our “self love” and “vanity” as both lead us to believe we have the rights to own each other, especially if we are married to the person. Many are unaware that we are composite parts that relate to the three aspects to our being.