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Dating Tips: Are you Haphazard Or Strategic?

Dating Tips: Are you Haphazard Or Strategic?

When you think about going out to meet people for the purpose of dating, are you doing so in a haphazard way or are being strategic about the process? This past month I have had many coaching conversations about how people are putting themselves out into their communities to meet people for dating. What I notice is many people are being haphazard about their approach to meeting people. Let me explain what that means. When I hear that people go to events that are random, where you show up one time and:

Can Sex & Spirituality Go Together?

Can Sex & Spirituality Go Together?

Sexuality is very important because it is our basic instinctual life force energy. We need to own it and embrace it and then that same energy can start moving through our whole body and our whole being. So essentially, we are moving on a journey which begins with sex and moves through 6 more doors of power and potential. These are: 1) sex 2) emotions 3) our soul calling 4) love and compassion 5) creativity 6) expanded consciousness and intuition 7) orgasmic oneness with the whole

Great Sex for Women

Great Sex for Women

The sexual fulfilment of women is one of my favourite topics, and I have dedicated 37 years of personal and professional research to the study of it. There are five factors which are important to understand when discussing women’s sexual fulfilment. 1) Sexual anatomy 2) Cycles 3) Senses 4) Chakras 5) Spirituality

Dear Dr. Romance: I Like the Feeling of Getting Cut

Dear Dr. Romance: I Like the Feeling of Getting Cut

Dear Dr. Romance: Is it normal to like the feeling of glass cutting your skin? I like the feeling of getting cut... This isn't good, is it?...   Dear Reader: You're right; it's not good. What it means is that you are emotionally numb and looking for sensation to feel alive. The numbness is probably because you're suppressing feelings about bad things that happened.

No Babysitter? Money Tight? Want Good Sex? No Problem!

No Babysitter? Money Tight? Want Good Sex? No Problem!

How to Get Time for Intimacy (without Spending the Big Bucks) if You're Parents of Small Children (EXPERT) To have intimacy in a relationship, couples need to have the four T's: Time, Talk, Trust and Touch. But for many parents of small kids, finding the time to talk and touch intimately is difficult. Who will take the kids? It's a problem.

5 Things You Must Know Before Getting Divorced [EXPERT]
Even though your marriage is over, don't let your divorce turn nasty.

5 Things You Must Know Before Getting Divorced

You've done everything you can to make the marriage work. You've been to more than one marriage counselor, you've read every book on how to make a marriage great, and you've struggled with the consequences for both you and your children on calling it quits. You've come to the painful conclusion that no matter how much you want your marriage to work, it simply does not. You submit to the reality of divorce and you're ready to take that final step out of your marriage and into the unknown territory of navigating a divorce.

How Your Underwear Dictates Your Dating Life [EXPERT]
Are you going to buy a new pair for tonight's date?

How Your Underwear Dictates Your Dating Life

You may have tried different tactics based on the advice you received on the proper behavior for landing a man. The real secret to attracting lasting love is through something unseen. You may seem like a grown-up but do you show up on a date feeling like a helpless little girl with her ruffled panties? You look sexy, but are your actions and energy reflecting your insecure younger self?

If You Want Something, Ask

If You Want Something, Ask

“Ask and ye shall receive.” Try it. Enough with the vacillating. Extinguish the proverbial second guess. You deserve what you want. So speak up. Few people are mind readers. We can’t expect others to just “know.” When you cease to express your needs, wants, and desires, you suspend the right to be disappointed when you don’t get what you want. Ask your manager, the universe, your lover, the saleswoman, the barista behind the Starbucks counter.

Gnarly Mistakes

Gnarly Mistakes

There’s no avoiding them. Don’t cover them up. Don’t pretend they don’t exist. Really, really don’t blame someone else. Own it. It’s probably you’re fault, anyway. Look, you’re going to ‘eff up. You have before. And you will again. You’ll wish you did. You’ll wish you didn’t. You’ll wish you said this or didn’t say that.

I Suck (A Word On Shortcomings)

I Suck (A Word On Shortcomings)

I suck at: spelling reading directions anything math-related (I still count on my fingers) having patience for objects with an “ON/OFF” switch doing one thing at a time being told what to do being on time (I’m always 5-7 minutes late. (Sorry) being interested in politics reporting to a cubicle (The neon lights, industrial carpet and institutional nature of it chokes my soul and depresses my creative juju.)