Being in what I call a “pain cycle” is being in a love relationship where the pain of loving that person overtakes the positive aspects of the love you share. Examples of pain cycles are relationships where you feel like you are on an emotional rollercoaster. Where you feel betrayed or your emotional and physical needs in love are not being met and you deeply suffer, as a result.
In 23 years of reading for my clients, I clearly saw self defeating patterns rising again and again no matter what clients tried to change direction. When I realized I was being shown a Map, my coaching and instruction changed radically. Maps can be studied, read, consulted and counted on.
I’m stepping into a bigger, more sparkly pair of big girl shoes today. For the last month I’ve been trying to figure out how to “package” my dual- and seemingly unrelated- message of love and abundance. I tried being clever and coming up with a cool acronym. I actually came up with a really cool one for peace (Personal Empowerment and Community Engagement- wouldn’t that create peace?) but couldn’t easily assign that any relevance to my work.
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On a first day, you approach a new person with either excitement and hope or apprehension and even fear. You want to make a good impression, you want this other person to like you and to "the one." Although we know a lot about another person in the first few seconds of seeing each other. We know how attractive they are to us. We know if they are gentle, passive, aggressive, open, secretive, loving or hostile. We may not consciously pay attention to what we know but our brain picks up lots of signals.
Can you imagine being married for 28 years and feeling miserable for all 28 of those years? That was how one of my coaching students felt when I met him at the beginning of our 10 week coaching program. As with every coaching student, I began the process with an orientation interview, to get a baseline understanding of his background, to grasp some of his formative experiences, to learn what really inspired him and what it was that held him back.
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You've noticed something weird about your man. He's all about himself and away from home a lot more these days. He's on his phone a lot and never lets his phone out of his sight. You just can't shake this feeling that he might be up to something…and that something is cheating.
I can remember as even a tiny little girl (around 4 years old) my mother telling me “to marry my best friend.” What she forgot to mention (aside from the fact that yes, eventually I might actually not be totally grossed out by kissing, let alone boys), was that I first had to fall head-over-heels in love with me. I first had to truly know what a best friend was and could only do so, by best-friending myself.
As in nature, in relationships a balance of give and take must be struck for harmony to be achieved. Sounds cliché, I know, but its true, and often, as women, our natural tendencies to mother takeover in a relationship and we can over-give, resulting in not paying attention to the scales. While relationships shouldn’t be about score keeping, they should feel balanced. A mutual decision to show up and play the game with equal devotion must be there or only one team member will win, and guess what? It won’t be the giver.