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Lights Off Please!

Lights Off Please!

“Lights off please!!” Have you heard that recently? I hear it ALL the time from clients and from my very own friends! This happens for a couple of reasons- none that are shocking. 1.) Body Image Issues- it’s no secret, America is more overweight than ever before and most people who are overweight are very uncomfortable by it, reasonably so. Even for women who have wonderful bodies have body image issues because you know what- we are all competing with PHOTOSHOP! Give it up girls!

Nice & Slow: Know Your Girl's Tempo!

Nice & Slow: Know Your Girl's Tempo!

So, it’s that time of week again…FRIDAY!!! Which means for many of you who schedule sex on your calendars, (yes, people do that!) tonight is probably one of your scheduled nights and before the evening gets hot and heavy, I thought I’d share some information about ORGASMS to help your night be extra hot!

Think Before You Tweet!

Think Before You Tweet!

Within the last week, for those that follow politics, Andrew Breitbart died of “natural causes” at the age of 43. Now, I know he wasn’t the kindest man around, but I have loads of respect for him because he went from being anonymous to very public about very sensitive issues. At times, and I know I’m guilty of this, I think we all go a bit “chameleon” to get along with the rest of the crowd with the risk of losing touch with who we really are.

Who Are You When No One's Looking?

Who Are You When No One's Looking?

We’ve all been there. We’re just happily going about our day when suddenly, with no encouragement from us, we get a flirty text. Ah, but we just started dating someone or maybe you’re recently married and haven’t caught up with this person. You’re by yourself, no one watching over your shoulder…do you flirt back? How do you handle it?

Somtimes 'Sorry' Is Not The Only Word

Somtimes 'Sorry' Is Not The Only Word

I had a conversation with a friend the other day about relationships and marriage. This friend has been married for over twenty years. When I shared a situation that had occurred in my own relationship, he jokingly replied that he’s found that the best strategy to keeping a happy marriage was learning how to say “Yes, honey, you’re right. I’m sorry.” I laughed and told him that when it came to having an intimate and healthy relationship with me, saying sorry was not enough, at least some of the time.

Are You Hasty Communicator?

Are You Hasty Communicator?

I think one of the biggest fallacies I’ve ever heard is the saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones / But words will never hurt me.” As a professional in the industry of helping people, I have seen many clients where they would much rather have a stick thrown at them than hearing some of the words their partner has said to them. Why? Because words stick with us. They leave scars. They flashback to us intrusively and haunt us for sometimes…years.

Why The Why's Don't Matter

Why The Why's Don't Matter

This week I had the privilege of doing AfterBuzz TV’s “The Bachelor” after show with JC Rubio (@theeverydayman), Canden Bliss (@candenbliss) and Bobby Kaple (@bobbykaple) and before the show ended JC and I were talking about when a relationship ends all we want to know is “Why?!” – “Am I broken” – “Why NOT me?” – “Is there something wrong with me?”

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Sex addicts can never can get enough of what won't satisfy them.

Is Sex Addiction Just A Myth?

Sex addiction. Each word evokes complex thoughts, images, and responses. Put the two together and there is the possibility for controversy and confusion. Is sex addiction real, or is it just the latest cop-out for bad behavior?

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Don't let your own anxiety fool you!

Engaged & Terrified: What Your Fear Is All About

Why would someone feel terrified to marry someone with whom they have a terrific relationship? Why would a loving, solid partnership trigger such deep-seated feelings of anxiety, rendering my clients unable to eat, sleep or function?

"I'll Never Be Able To Make You Happy..."

"I'll Never Be Able To Make You Happy..."

Have you heard those words before? Have you said those words before? I hear couples say this on an almost daily basis in my practice and I have to say, when I hear it – I even get discouraged about the possibility of the relationship working out. :( In my experience, it usually makes the person being accused of never being happy feel like they have these out of this world expectations and standards (and hm, sometimes they do, but that’s another blog post!) and for the person blasting it out – it only adds to their hopelessness and resignat