I was rifling through the daily news this week and I came across this article - http://www.examiner.com/wellness-in-hartford/are-romance-novels-bad-for-... Which I quickly assessed as shenanigans on many, many counts. I say let the dreamers dream. Women that read erotica have a 30% higher libido than women who don’t and are more prone to try new things in bed.
It’s a fine balance to know when/what/how much to say, but I think we’ve seen too many movies where if the girl or the guy would have just said what they were thinking…everything would have been okay?! I think this line of thinking is unhealthy and one of desperation! If you find yourself in this hole, start hollering for some rope. DO NOT JUST CHILL here and see how much further down you can go. This is dating suicide.
“Lights off please!!” Have you heard that recently? I hear it ALL the time from clients and from my very own friends! This happens for a couple of reasons- none that are shocking. 1.) Body Image Issues- it’s no secret, America is more overweight than ever before and most people who are overweight are very uncomfortable by it, reasonably so. Even for women who have wonderful bodies have body image issues because you know what- we are all competing with PHOTOSHOP! Give it up girls!
So, it’s that time of week again…FRIDAY!!! Which means for many of you who schedule sex on your calendars, (yes, people do that!) tonight is probably one of your scheduled nights and before the evening gets hot and heavy, I thought I’d share some information about ORGASMS to help your night be extra hot!
Within the last week, for those that follow politics, Andrew Breitbart died of “natural causes” at the age of 43. Now, I know he wasn’t the kindest man around, but I have loads of respect for him because he went from being anonymous to very public about very sensitive issues. At times, and I know I’m guilty of this, I think we all go a bit “chameleon” to get along with the rest of the crowd with the risk of losing touch with who we really are.
We’ve all been there. We’re just happily going about our day when suddenly, with no encouragement from us, we get a flirty text. Ah, but we just started dating someone or maybe you’re recently married and haven’t caught up with this person. You’re by yourself, no one watching over your shoulder…do you flirt back? How do you handle it?
I had a conversation with a friend the other day about relationships and marriage. This friend has been married for over twenty years. When I shared a situation that had occurred in my own relationship, he jokingly replied that he’s found that the best strategy to keeping a happy marriage was learning how to say “Yes, honey, you’re right. I’m sorry.” I laughed and told him that when it came to having an intimate and healthy relationship with me, saying sorry was not enough, at least some of the time.
I think one of the biggest fallacies I’ve ever heard is the saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones / But words will never hurt me.” As a professional in the industry of helping people, I have seen many clients where they would much rather have a stick thrown at them than hearing some of the words their partner has said to them. Why? Because words stick with us. They leave scars. They flashback to us intrusively and haunt us for sometimes…years.
This week I had the privilege of doing AfterBuzz TV’s “The Bachelor” after show with JC Rubio (@theeverydayman), Canden Bliss (@candenbliss) and Bobby Kaple (@bobbykaple) and before the show ended JC and I were talking about when a relationship ends all we want to know is “Why?!” – “Am I broken” – “Why NOT me?” – “Is there something wrong with me?”
Sex addiction. Each word evokes complex thoughts, images, and responses. Put the two together and there is the possibility for controversy and confusion. Is sex addiction real, or is it just the latest cop-out for bad behavior?