Have you noticed that indiscriminately following your attractions often ends in disaster? If so, you've come to the right place. In this series of articles, I'll take you on the chemistry journey of your life. As we travel together, you'll begin to look at your relationships differently. You will be empowered at times when you've previously felt lost or confused. Let's begin.
1. The Unavailable Relationship In an unavailable relationship, your partner doesn’t show up, doesn’t call and is never there, unless he or she wants something or it suits their agenda. In this relationship you may feel the disappointment of always waiting for the other person to appear, and no matter how many times you talk to them about not showing up their behavior doesn’t change. They aren’t available for themselves so they create this experience within and for their partner.
The age-old question: What makes a person in a marriage or committed relationship cheat? Despite recent articles that suggest that there is a cheating gene ingrained into the DNA of some men (Really? *rolls eyes*), the real answer depends on whether you’re talking about a woman or a man. Several credible infidelity studies have found that men and women who are cheating on their spouses gave different reasons to justify their extramarital affairs.
Jennifer's friends keep urging her to date again. It's been about 6 months since the painful breakup with her ex-boyfriend and she's just not sure if she's ready yet. To be honest, she's not sure if she'll ever be ready to date again. Being cheated on, lied to and dumped by her ex-boyfriend has left Jennifer feeling leery and apprehensive of men. Jennifer's friends suggest that she won't fully heal until she finds another guy and sees that all men aren't like her ex. Jennifer is not so sure.
Jennifer is stunned. Her long-term, live-in boyfriend, Rob, came home from work last night and announced to her that he is moving out temporarily because he needs some “space.” Rob's announcement took Jennifer completely by surprise. She knew that their relationship had its challenges and rough spots, but she felt like things between them were starting to even out. They hadn't been arguing as much lately.
In ancient times, Oracles were feared and unapproachable. Only the holiest of men could seek the guidance offered and then share it with the common people. I am SO glad things have changed. These days, anyone can learn to use the intuitive tools that used to be hidden from sight.
For many years I’ve wondered if there was some new way to go about dating; some secret approach that no one had discovered yet. But alas, the older I get, the less I'm inclined to believe in such thoughts. I’ve been on both UK mature dating sites and USA mature dating sites and there is one thing I've learned. It’s that the good old dating "basics" are still the same. Things have not changed that much at all.
Okay, I know that being “reluctantly single” is not fun. I know that it gets lonely sometimes. And frustrating. And it seems like there just aren’t enough good single, heterosexual men in your area that you happen to live in. Sometimes you wonder if you’ll ever find your true love.
The number of women out-earning their men is growing and some predict by 2030 most women will be more financially successful than their partners. While this may sound like the best possible outcome to women’s libbers from thirty years ago, the truth is that success dissolves your sex life more times than not.
We're all busy. Let's face it. Our lives are busy. Sometimes between family, work and other obligations, your friendships can slip through the cracks. Sure, you "like" her status on Facebook but when is the last time you gave her an actual phone call? For some friends like one of my best friends, this is totally cool. She lives far away and I see her once or twice a year. We might not talk for months but when we're together, it's like we never left.