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On Being a Bad Boy

On Being a Bad Boy

One of the mysteries of relationships is the concept of the “bad boy.” You know those dudes– like the famous image of the strutting, manly cowboy AKA the Marlboro Man. Or the burnt-out 60’s rocker in tight jeans who’s screaming at the mike with gyrating hip action while the crowd shrieks for more. Or the gangsta’ rapper wearing the gold neck chains and pants hanging around his butt crack making nasty-talking dialogue. A bad boy can even be the boy next door who never calls her the morning after he finally scores. Those bad boys abound.

Living With Someone Who Does Not Seem Interested In YOU?

Living With Someone Who Does Not Seem Interested In YOU?

I have a few hard questions for you to think about: Are you in a relationship that is not healthy for you?   Are you scared of intimacy or of being alone? (Maybe you’re scared of both.)   Do you believe that deep down you are really a terribly flawed human being who     doesn’t deserve to be anything but sad, lonely, and unhappy — someone waiting to be dumped because you just don’t “measure up.”  

Catastrophe or Catalyst?

Catastrophe or Catalyst?

Everything contains its opposite.  It’s inherent in the way life works.  My friend Pete, faced several situations – several Pivot Points – that brought this fact back to mind. Pete’s wife announced she was leaving him, ending their 30-year marriage.  A few weeks later, his mother died.  Two weeks after that, he received word from his former employer that the company was facing bankruptcy, retirees pensions were in jeopardy, and all health care benefits would be discontinued beg

An Enchanted Self Moment in the New York Subways!

An Enchanted Self Moment in the New York Subways!

I notice the three men on the platform as I wait for an uptown subway. They dressed in a combination of elegance and thrift store. One of them has a pretty expensive leather jacket on. Was it warm enough for 30 degrees out? Also, his dressy shoes in leather were elegant but looked many years outdated. Boots might have served him better. Another had on sneakers that almost looked clownish. They were simply too big. The men are good looking, but worn and I guess between 40 and 55. Of course I eavesdrop as we wait. What else do I have to do?

8 Things Your Depressed Partner Wishes You Knew

8 Things Your Depressed Partner Wishes You Knew

Going through depression is hard enough on it’s own without the crushing guilt that comes along with potentially trashing your relationship. Combined with the fact that serious depression is difficult to comprehend without having actually experienced it yourself— it can lead to a perfect storm of relationship damaging behavior both from the person who is going through it and their partner who in an attempt to help, just can’t seem to do or say the right thing. So what do you do if your partner seems like they might be spiraling?

Women Ready To Date: How to Get Started

Women Ready To Date: How to Get Started

Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Saira Mohan – author of How to Seduce and Marry the Woman of Your Dreams: They need to come from a place of authenticity and not pretend to be someone else. Women are looking for a level of emotional security with a guy. I think men look for that with women, too. What about the single women out there who are really interested in meeting their special someone? They’re in a place in their lives where they’re ready. Do any tips come to mind for them?