This is a quote from John Mellencamp and it got stuck in my head while listening to NPR one day, on a Terry Gross/ Fresh Air interview. That day, life was good, the sun was shining and I was gathering provisions to cook a typical Hampton's meal for a client. Typical means fresh, local caught fish, farm stand produce, and most likely fire from a grill. "Summer is short", I thought, all too short here on the east coast. Note to self: take advantage of it, it's all too soon October.
"How you do anything is how you do everything." I'm not sure who originated this quote, but think about it: How you do anything is how you do everything. Now let's substitute a couple of words, courtesy of my coach, Gregory Anne Cox: How you do food is how you do everything.
Johnny and I have been helping people magnetize their soulmate (officially and unofficially) for a little over 7 years now…and one question just keeps coming up over and over again. Today, I’m going to answer it once and for all: Our definition of a Soulmate. When you have found your soulmate, you’ll recognize him (or her) by 3 major criteria:
Dear Dr. Romance: I know I feel strongly about a certain someone. Do I surprise her with a gift or e-mail her with my recent feelings through a tough time? Dear Reader: It sounds like you're way ahead of yourself and her. I think a gift would be completely out of line at this point. If she's responded well, have you had a date yet? Asked her out for coffee? You're right to be scared about overdoing it. You can't force a relationship by declaring your love.
We all appreciate a good love story. Let me tell you about Bill (not his real name). Bill came to see me a while back because he broke up with his girlfriend, I'll call her Susan, a few months earlier and was now struggling with anxiety. The anxiety became the most evident whenever he started to date a new person. He started to worry about being hurt, being rejected, making a mistake. It didn’t make sense to him.
I know what you're thinking right now. "Of course I'm ready for a relationship. It's what I've been waiting so long for! I just need to know how I can get one started!" Well, I'm certainly not arguing that you want a real relationship. I'm asking if you're ready for a real relationship.
Should you stay or should you go? This is the perennial question in long term relationships that have gotten stale. It's the question that launched my business, Romance Recovery, and the one that prompted me to write my new book, The Soulmate Myth. (YourTango readers can go here to get a preview) It’s an important question, but in order to answer it with clarity, you have to ask yourself another important question first.
On an Outward Bound in the mountains of California, I hugged the rock ledge and refused to look down. One hundred and forty feet of sheer granite cascaded to a hard landing on more granite and I wanted to hire a helicopter to rescue me.
Well it’s official. Heidi Klum has filed for divorce from pop-star husband, Seal. One of Hollywood’s most loved couples, mostly for their longevity and public displays of affection. This couple was known for renewing their vows each year and having famous Halloween parties. Twitter is all aglow with comments on how hopeless love is if these two can’t make it and I think a great many of us are looking at divorce entirely wrong.
We all dream of having our ideal home, ideal man and unlimited funds in our bank account, and then can’t figure out why it’s not manifesting. What you might be surprised to know what’s really keeping you stuck is a fear of having it all. We have such a fear of having it all, that we’ll often create situations to ensure there’s at least ONE area of our life that doesn’t work.