MARCH WORKSHOP ENROLLMENT OPEN! Discovering Your Internal Mentor With Tara Shopia Mohr There's a great deal of talk about the importance of women finding mentors, but few women know about their own "internal mentor" - a surprising, unfailing source of inner guidance and wisdom that they can draw upon anytime.
Josh and Rachel, both in their mid-twenties were together for a year and a half. During that time everyone who knew them would describe them as really intense and into each other. Texts, e-mails and phonecalls would fly back and forth many times a day. They seemed inseparable. Then one day, they argue. Nothing major, just the kind of stuff couples fall out about from time to time. Friction caused by different perspectives and different needs. Rachel expected a cooling down period then a resumption of where they had left off.
A client asked me today, "How do romantic relationships change us?" The idea behind this question is intriguing and may shed light into the darker places of relationships. This question underscores our unspoken fears of loss of control and the need to conform to someone else's ideas about happiness. As a therapist, I tend to see the couples "in trouble" so I may have my own a somewhat stilted view of things.
So, you met a guy. He seems fantastic. He says all the right words, does all the right things, and you decide to sleep with him a little more quickly than normal because you feel oh-so comfortable around him. Then guess what happens? He stops calling you.
Question: I’ve been divorced for a couple of years now and I’m ready to start dating. My big problem is where to find men? I’m in my 40’s and don’t want to go to single’s events and the bar scene isn’t my thing– any suggestions? Linda D.
In a recent workshop, one of my participants asked the question: “Who should pay for dinner on a date?” This is not the first time I’ve been asked this question. What is interesting though is that the ONLY students who ask me this are my female participants. However this isn’t surprising if we look at women and money from a historical perspective..
It is normal to feel comforted by the thought that our partner is never going to have sex with anyone else but us. Marriage can give us the illusion that our partner is bound by a legal agreement to never cheat. This comes from a long history of marriage as primarily a real estate contract, used purely as a way to perpetuate a name or lineage. But today, with birth control and DNA testing there is no longer a need to use the same harsh outside control. Today we expect to marry not for our names or for property, but for love and for desire.
What are YOU committed to? “Love!” “Soulmate Love!” “Lifelong partnership!” “The man of my dreams!” – You may be saying. Many people do. Nobody would SAY “I’m committed to more of the same unfulfilling relationships I’ve had the last ten years.” So why does it keep happening? Because, uhm…how can I say this? Often we’re just full of it. And scared. And Busy. And scared. And… just don’t know any better.
As the political and psychological war over abortion wages on, learning how to "own" all of our choices as women could not be more vital to ensuring our long term health and peace of mind. In 2009 Priscilla Coleman of Bowling Green State University in Ohio released a controversial study linking abortion and mental health issues.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Athena Staik, PhD The latest findings in neuroscience place love and healthy relationships at the center of what optimizes our health, physically and emotionally, and the quality of our lives in general.