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"You Is Kind, You Is Smart, You Is Important!"
Everyone could learn something from Aibileen in 'The Help!'

"You Is Kind, You Is Smart, You Is Important!"

'The Help.' What a moving and powerful film. If only each of us grew up with that mantra so that the lies of self-doubt and unworthiness would stop haunting us. In the movie, the main character, Aibileen (a black maid and nanny) would say the following words to the 4 year old child that she cared for every day: "You is kind, You is smart, You is important." In the movie, the mother would ignore her child and treat her badly. The little girl just loved Abaleen and told her that she was her real mom. She felt safe and loved in the arms of her caregiver.

Turning Your Dreams Into Action

Turning Your Dreams Into Action

How often have you heard, "You can do anything you set your mind to!" Things have changed. From "What do you want to be when you grow up?" we've come to, "Just be grateful if you have a job." Teenagers are watching adults flounder, and their dreams are slipping away into apathy. And adults have often given up on their dreams entirely and now just hope to survive.

Putting A Stop To The Put Downs

Putting A Stop To The Put Downs

Nobody likes to be criticized. Let's face it-- most of us overload ourselves with negative judgments a lot of the time. When your partner regularly lumps on his or her nags, put downs and “advice” for how you might do things better, it can be a heavy and crippling load to carry. The combination of your own criticisms with your partner's put downs can cause your self esteem to dip even lower and intensify conflict between the two of you.

How Do You Know When You've Met "The One?"

How Do You Know When You've Met "The One?"

QUESTION I’ve been dating a guy for over a year now, and we’re thinking about taking it to the next level: marriage. How do you know when you’ve met the right one? ANSWER Your question suggests to me that you might have some uncertainty about taking your relationship to the next level. Many people willingly spend a significant amount of time, energy and money on the wedding event (or events) instead of expending those resources on finding the right person to be their partner.

"He'd Be Great, If Only..."

"He'd Be Great, If Only..."

We’ve all been there – he’s the perfect guy, except… Some of these complaints are relatively minor; he throws his sweaty workout underwear on top of your bath towel, or he leaves the razor stubble all over the bathroom sink without rinsing it down. And some are much more serious; such as infidelity, physical abuse, or substance abuse. As far as the second category goes, as long as marriage and children are not yet involved, it’s best to walk away and stay away. If a man cheats, it does not get better with time; in fact it usually gets worse.

5 Ways To Tell If He Is Committed & Serious About You

5 Ways To Tell If He Is Committed & Serious About You

When things are going well in a relationship, it's all too easy to make the assumption that things are getting serious. If you both get along well with each other, are having fun, and the attraction factor is so intense you can't keep your hands off of one another ... things must be getting serious, right?  Not necessarily.  Here are 5 questions you should ask yourself:

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If you can't keep your hands off each other, you're probably doing something right!

7 Signs You're Good In Bed

It's something every girl has wondered: am I good in bed? Sure, like kissing, much of it may have to do with compatibility—what might be hot for one guy could be just plain freaky to the next. But no matter what your guy's preferences are, here are the 7 signs to know that you're rocking his socks off!

5 Ways To Improve Marital Success

5 Ways To Improve Marital Success

Study after study is shedding light on the perils of dropping out of high school. Besides not being able to make a reasonable living, own your own home, and have a comfortable retirement, you also may never be able to find time to get married. It is projected that within one or two years, less than half of the U.S. adult population will be married. This fact has social implications. The steady decrease in marriage rates is not only changing family values but it is contributing to the family’s economic inequality.