5 Ways that Women BLOW the critical first 5 dates with men...And wind up back at single square one 1. By GIVING More than your Man:
Effective Agreements Life is an ongoing process of creating agreements with others. An effective agreement means more than getting another person to do what you want. It means buy-in and true commitment from both people. Successful Agreements Your overall effectiveness in making and honoring agreements is greatly increased if you pay attention to three important elements: 1. Clarify you personal values. 2. Clarify your Vision as an individual.
Dating can be an emotional, exhausting process. In fact, just thinking about dating is taxing… online dating, offline dating, speed dating, hook-ups, set-ups, make-ups, and breakups. Seriously. Could dating be any more exhausting?!
This was the year I put myself back on the market. Yes I'm single. Is that a bad thing? You see when you know what you want dating gets easy but when you speak that which you don't. Dating can be hard. I hear so many women say "A Good Man Is Hard To Find". I don't want to get too phlisophical on you but if that's what you're saying. That's exactly what you're going to get. It doesn't take Rocket Science to figure that out. Ladies, we have to start focusing on the qualities that we are looking for in a man.
As I was reflecting on my Art of Seduction Workshop and my Velocity article about “Sensual Leadership”, an interesting phrase popped in my head…Love Currency. This may sound peculiar to some, the concept of love and currency, but when your life is filled with love, joy and pleasure by many accounts you’re a prosperous person. You can view this prosperity as a type of currency, an energy exchange of the highest vibration.
As an Imago therapist, I consider the couple's space a living entity that, if fed, nourished, and protected, will strengthen into what Martin Buber termed the I-Thou, a sacred place where each can meet the other's full being and becoming. I make it a point to bring the couple's attention to this from the outset and ask them to each assume a new level of responsibility for it. I liken it to a diver's air hose. If it gets crimped or ruptured, they both strangle for the needed air of connection. I also say it is like a garden.
So you just printed your boarding pass & you're ready for your trip. Look in the mirror. Do you look presentable? What if I told you, you might meet that special some one at the airport. Crazy I know but it's actually the modern day pick up joint. Especially if you travel often you increase your chances of meeting someone. So, if you did bump into "Mr. Dreamy". Would you be kicking yourself because you weren't prepared. Your image was less than stellar. To be blunt you simply weren't sashaying down the runway at your best.
On the first page of my book, “Why He Disappeared,” I tell a story of my first online date back in the late 90’s. We ate, we drank, we laughed, we got deep, we closed the bar, we made out in the parking lot. And I never saw her again. That was a great lesson in reading too much into a quality first date. Yet millions of women agonize over the same thing every day: “We had such great chemistry. What happened? What did I do wrong?”