What in the world IS the Love Lifestyle? First of all, it’s living life at 100%…NOW, knowing that life is a precious gift and can be taken away at any moment. It’s turning off the TV, the iPhone and yes, the Internet regularly to connect with yourself… your highest self. It’s disconnecting from messages of mediocrity that are pervasive in this society, that continually condition us all to live a life that’s “normal” and to live within the status quo.
Today, as women everywhere breathe heavy over 50 Shades of Grey, an erotic novel that explores BDSM — the consensual use of bondage, discipline and power fantasy role play — I actually find myself breathing a little easier. Why? Because this is something I experienced in real life after I got divorced.
As it becomes more fashionable and acceptable to discuss condom use and STD prevention in public in fun and sexy ways, it's time for us to expand the safer sex conversation to consent. How are you making safer sex sexy?
"Baseball is a popular way to escape reality," says Richard Drobnick, LCSW, DCSW of Mars & Venus Counseling Center, Bergen County, with offices in Ramsey, Oradell, and Teaneck, New Jersey. Richard Drobnick's counseling center ractices the philosophy of Dr.John Gray, best-selling author of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.” www.marsvenusnewjersey.com “It’s great to focus on problems that seem bigger than your own.
Dear Dr. Romance: What to say in this situation? Okay, so there's this girl in my art class that I really want to talk to and get to know! Problem is she sits at a different table than me and I just plain don't know what to say to her! I'm a senior and she's a sophomore! What should I say to her to show her I'm interested in her? I haven't talked to her yet so I need something to break the ice! Dear Reader: To break the ice, break something! Break a colored pencil or a crayon or something, and then go ask her if you can borrow hers.
How would you like to turn your relationship that goes from wonderful to awful millions of time a day into a loving, comfortable connection? You love the idea of it, but can't see it happening. The secret lies in discovering whether you have a 'validator' relationship or a 'battle type' relationship. The story of Peter and Hedy will help you find out which fits your connection and offers tips on making your relationship a peaceful validating one.
As a therapist one of the first things I say to people in a first session is that they can talk however they want with me including swearing (just not at me, please). The words that I want them to get rid of are not those dirty words that their mothers told them never to say. Mine are words and phrases that cut a person down or give messages that hold them back. Language is more powerful than we often give it credit for.
Does your spouse rarely hear you apologize? Your apologies may be long overdue. Here is why: we have a natural tendency to gloss over what we have done wrong. Perhaps we hope that if we don’t say how self-centered or thoughtless we have been, others won’t take notice and scold us. Ironically, the opposite is true. Read more at SmartRelationships.org.
I remember when I was in school my Dad used to say to me, "You should be a teacher." It's so rewarding, helping others and you'll have the Summers off! Well, I took his advice and while I was in public school I was a teacher's aide for Kindergarten and 1st grade. During summer vacations I was a camp counselor. My favorite was the summer I had 3 yr olds. It was one of my missions to have all those kids tie their own shoes by the end of summer...