I finally figured him out. I know what he really wants – to be nurtured in a motherly way. If I kiss his head, hold him tight and let him feel loved he eats it up. I guess this makes sense based on lack of love from his own mother when he was a kid. This flash of insight came from a client of mine who has been working on her own development for some time. Feeling pushed into marriage before she was really ready, she held resentment inside and resisted the idea of loving her partner in ways that meet his needs and communicate in his love language.
"Good relationships, even among competitive people, have that aspect of encouragement, challenge, and inspiration. When one wins, both win. That's the kind of balance a healthy relationship requires." ~Thomas Whiteman Just as success leaves clues so does lasting relationships. There is a formula to happiness and a healthy relationship. Here is what I've learned along the way.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Nathan Feiles, LMSW Many of us have been there at one time or another — in a relationship that is causing us stress, maybe too much stress. There is potential for the relationship to fulfill our ideal, but something keeps it from getting there. We end up battling, at times to our own emotional detriment, to keep the relationship going even through a steady lack of fulfillment.
Mars Venus asks the questions, when you find out while dating that your relationship is going to become a long distance relationship due to either one or both person’s jobs, which way do you run? If you run away from each other to deal with the stressors involved with re-locating, then you may not be so lucky. If you cannot stand the fact physical intimacy goes out the door while you’re living miles apart, maybe you need to revisit your definition of a committed relationship.
So you’re dating someone new. He’s great. You think to yourself, “What an awesome man! He seems to be perfect for a wonderful in a relationship.” And then you start forecasting the relationship. You become a relationship forecaster, where you just want and need something so bad that you forget to remain present. And what happens? You end up getting disappointed a year later, two years later, whatever it might be.
Wedding planning, although sometimes stressful, is truly an opportunity to practice some of the skills you'll need in your marriage. Here are three skills you should practice.
Every now and again you come across a situation in your life that blows your hair back, your skirt up or...just blows. For example: you find out the person you're seriously considering spending the rest of your life with isn't interested in a long-term relationship with you. Or you discover one evening, quite by accident, that your husband prefers blondes...who are hung like a horse.