I am the worst offender when it comes to the following issue. It can literally break up any kind of relationship. It can harm the relationship you have with your man, mother, father, sibling, or friend. A couple of weeks back, my husband (Hemal) and I had a squabble. This is how it went down… Hemal came home from a final round interview for a new job position that he has been scoping out and wanting for a while. I asked him how it went.
I was sitting in the nail salon the other day having my bi-weekly pedicure and manicure, when a couple of “upper class” women waltzed in. We all exchanged smiles and hellos. I’ve seen the one woman a few times, so we have the ability to chat a little to break up the silence. This day however, I wasn’t so talkative; I was a voyeur, listener. The big discussion was the newest novel, “50 Shades of Grey”.
Have you ever found yourself in a sexual lull? Maybe you're in one right now. During my oh-so-many single years, I used to call my gaps in dating and intimacy "being on hiatus." And the hiatuses were often pretty long. (Sorry…TMI?) The truth is that extended periods of celibacy are somewhat common for single women over 40. Unlike our earlier years of joyful experimentation and bed-hopping, most of us aren't sleeping with any guy that comes along. (Yes…pun intended.)
Anyone going through a breakup or a divorce experiences an emotional roller coaster. It is necessary to grieve the death of the relationship. To fully heal, one must go through all five of the grieving stages, anger, denial, bargaining, depression and acceptance. There is no set order or time limit for each stage of grieving. You may go from one to another several times before getting to acceptance. There is also no set time. It may take one person a few days to go through this process, while it takes another person, years.
One of the most common complaints I receive in my relationship counseling work is, "we hardly ever have sex." Since you might be addicted to the anger and complaining surrounding this issue, I want to make sure you do all the "right things" so you get to continue complaining about it! Here are seven tips to ensure you never have to have sex in your relationship again.
On Saturday May 26, 2012, my oldest daughter graduated from high school and she's off to college in the fall, leaving the nest. This summer is probably the last time she'll be living at home for the rest of her life. Sure, she'll come home over the holidays and summer break, but most of that time is spent going out with friends and catching up on the happenings in their lives. From this point forward, my baby is going to be out in the real world on her own. Am I nostalgic thinking back about the time we spent together? Heck yes. Am I sad? Yes, but excited for the adventure she is about to embark on. Am I worried? No way! Let me share with you a true story involving a little boy and a little girl that happened many years ago but still moves me to tears when I tell it.
We all want to be great lovers and if we don’t get out of the box once in awhile and be adventurous we will become complacent and bored in our relationships. After all, sex is one of the biggest contributors to the divorce statistics and people still seem to ignore the importance of keeping their love alive as a couple. Try adding some of these scenarios to your lovemaking & change up the sexual pattern you may have entered into with your partner.
What is it that compels us to stay in relationships that aren't good for us? There are many reasons, but more often than not, it's a combination of several motivations. The first step towards making your situation better is in understanding why you're making the choices you're making to begin with.
Can you relate to this story? When Genevieve, a Rapunzel, was younger, she had a long string of intimate relationships. She didn't see it as love sabotage. Sex was a natural part of her dating life. It started when she was 15. Sex became no big deal. Now at 43 and struggling to define love differently, she isn't sure what is normal.