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Creating Secure Attachments: Know Your Boundaries

Creating Secure Attachments: Know Your Boundaries

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi This is a wonderful quote to think about when you are in a relationship or seeking one. Often, in my work with couples, I have found that the tension and negative cycle that they get stuck in are really about their underlying feelings - their hurt, shame, or sadness when needs for attachment are not being met and/or when fears about abandonment and loss of the other arise.

Technically you are Still Single!

Technically you are Still Single!

One of my female clients, who desires to get married and have a family, has been dating her current boyfriend for at least six months. She is 37 and he is 42. Both have never been married before. In our last coaching session she said, “When I was s.ingle….” as if she were referring to a life long past. That phrase made the hair in the back of my neck stand up! What I had to remind her was that, “technically, you are still single!” According to her tax returns she is single and especially according to her parents and family members she is still s.ingle!

Practice Makes Better in Love

Practice Makes Better in Love

When we take the 1550s English Proverb “practice makes perfect” to heart, we put unnecessary pressure and unrealistic expectations on ourselves. It can also keep us locked into our comfort zones and afraid of trying something different for fear of failing. Love relationships give us vast opportunities to practice communicating openly, expressing ourselves, allowing our partner to be and do what’s best for them, being open to how our relationship unfolds, etc.

Why You Shouldn't Care If He Calls Or Not

Why You Shouldn't Care If He Calls Or Not

Let's begin with a personal story. I'm in the healthiest relationship of my life, with the most amazing guy who treats me like gold.  I love everything about him, but it hasn't always been like this.  I, ever so sweetly of course, love to remind him of our first online date, when we'd had such a wonderful time and connected on so many levels, and he promised he'd call...said he couldn't wait to see me again, yada yada.

My Post-Wedding Day Meltdown & What I Learned From It [EXPERT]
Your wedding day should be full of happy tears, not sad ones.

My Post-Wedding Day Meltdown & What I Learned From It

Our entire wedding day and the week leading up to it went surprisingly smoothly — even with a house full family dynamics event details to sort out. Of course, there were a few minor glitches, but nothing was going to break my stride as I joyously walked down the aisle to marry the man of my dreams. The day after our amazing wedding, I came home and completely fell apart.

THE DANCE....inspired by the song by Garth Brooks

THE DANCE....inspired by the song by Garth Brooks

I believe that the beloved is the experience of a safe rhythm of understanding and unconditional love between two hearts. In this place there is no judgment or expectations. The intention of love and peace, woven with respect creates a safe place for each other to become all that they are.

Risking a Relationship

Risking a Relationship

This guest article from Psych Central was written by Meredith Bazirgan, MSW, LCSW You know the feeling: you lay in bed, wide awake, tossing and turning, and wishing you could sleep. Instead, your mind drifts to the one. You know the one: that person you cannot shake from your mind, no matter how hard you try. Nothing steals a good night’s sleep from you like falling in love.

7 Steps to Forgiveness ( EXPERT)

7 Steps to Forgiveness ( EXPERT)

Ever wonder why forgiving is such a tough thing to do, especially when we most likely know that forgiveness puts us on the road to more love and freedom? Primarily, it’s because many of us equate forgiveness with allowing or letting someone off the hook for wrongdoing. We think that by forgiving someone, we’re saying that what they did was okay.