My best friend who lives in Southern Florida is in her early 50’s and is ready to start dating again after losing a partner to a brain tumor. She mentioned to me that she is frustrated with the singles scene since she says the singles events and Meetups she attends are almost 70% women. She feels it’s very competitive and if there is a decent guy, all the women are vying for his attention.
I recently talked to a client of mine who has been online dating. She had been connecting with several very interesting men who she thought were very promising and was excited to learn more about them and to start the “Relationship Exploration” process (aka dating). The emails were going back and forth wonderfully, excitement was building… and then suddenly, they disappeared on her. All three of them. Just stopped emailing. MIA.
There's an old question that asks if it is really possible for a man and a woman to be friends and remain friendly without becoming romantically involved. In modern times this question was the basis for a classic romantic comedy film released in 1989 - When Harry Met Sally - but it didn't start there, of course.
Do you ever wake up in the middle of the night full of doubt and fear? Doubts can be insidious, especially in the early morning hours. During the day you may be feeling really positive about your future and having the marriage of your dreams, but then you find yourself awake at 3:00 AM and your thoughts about the future suddenly seem scary and overwhelming.
Dear Dr. Romance: I have been married for 17 years and thought we had a great marriage. 10 years ago I got hurt and have had 6 back surgeries. At one point I would double up on meds and drink to ignore life. During this time my husband was an angel; until he discovered I was taking more meds and drinking. He was so repulsed that i was doing this to our family. He would talk to his friend (a girl) and began to have some feelings.
In the same drunken, crazed and brazen spirit with which our nation's forefathers declared our independence from the monarchy so many hundred years ago I propose that the following holiday be added to your calendar immediately. July 5th is Sexual Independence Day!
These words, this belief, are the biggest relationship buster I hear in my office. If a wife cheats, if a husband is cross-dressing, if a child is using drugs – those who are affected by someone else’s behavior personalize it. They believe that the other person is doing something to harm them, to piss them off, or to otherwise inconvenience them. There is the expectation, unrealistic as it may be, that “If you love me, you will (or won’t) do …………”
Lets have a closer look at how your attitude can affect your romantic vacation.