When I was in my mid-twenties and many of my friends were either in long term relationships, engaged or married well-meaning confidents would suggest from time to time that the answer to my single status was lowering my standards. I’ll admit, they were high. I was very clear I wanted to be with someone who was intelligent, driven, creative, strong, successful, handsome, sexy and who knew how to treat a woman. The list was longer than that but you get the idea.
If you are not getting asked out, or can't get to the second date, you might wonder what is wrong. I recently got an email from a woman asking me if I thought that there might be something wrong with her since she rarely got asked out on a second date. Without meeting this woman and finding out what exactly she was doing on the dates, it was hard for me to give her a direct answer, but I do have some suggestions that everyone can do to ensure more success in not only dating but life in general.
What not to wear during Fashion Week or every day of the week for that matter… Fashion is always changing and with a new year comes new style. Some of this year’s fashion musts may not even be on your mind yet, so let me fill you in before it's too late! What's In, What's Out, What’s Hot Now!
I asked a group of accomplished 50-something single men, many of whom have been looking for the right woman for a long time, how they felt about the “mature” single dating life. Few thought it was what it was cracked up to be. Most longed to find one true, deep, exciting, and lasting love; some went so far as to say they worked two jobs: one during the day making money, and one at night looking for love.
One of my colleagues works exclusively with teens and is noting an increase in oral sex among teens. It is interesting because the teens report being virgins and are adamant that they aren’t having sex. According to a recent study researchers in California found that oral sex is the most frequent practiced sex act among teenagers engaging in sexual activity. Only 9 percent of high school students who have had oral sex are still virgins two years later. Oral sex has become the gateway to intercourse.
Successful dating is about being your authentic self, not hiding behind who you THINK you should be. I hear women describe themselves in the same way over and over again, and I bet you can identify with it, too. "I'm generally a very friendly, confident gal...unless I'm in the company of a single man—especially one I'm attracted to. In that case I turn into mush."
Because life coaching and business coaching are relatively new professions, and many people haven’t had any direct experience working with a coach, the question of “how does coaching work?” is something we frequently hear. One of the biggest misconceptions is that coaching is about giving advice.
Okay people…I fear I have stumbled upon an epidemic! Three, yes THREE different times this month I have had clients report that they would like to have more sex, but they simply don’t have the time or energy to do so. Are you kidding me? Sexy time doesn’t just fall into our laps…we have to make it a priority!
Mmmmmmmm, I love this exercise. I had a lovely couple in my office this week. They booked a 2-hr session with me to have a little "guided re-connection time" with one another while they are on vacation. They were new to Tantra and erotic exploration so I took it slow with them... We began with some breathwork exercises to help them connect to themsleves and one another and then moved into something I like to call "The Kissing Meditation."
You may not like what I am going to tell you, but if you are trying to talk over your problems with your spouse, save your breath. What may work better is to touch your partner. You need to quit talking about your problems and you need to sit with each other and touch. Along with touching have sex. Whether you plan it, or have it spontaneously won’t make a difference, as long as you have it. Day after day, I see couples who are trying to make their marriage better. They want to understand what is happening and work on the way they communicate.