We call it "dropping the bomb" syndrome and it usually follows the same pattern: one partner believes their marriage is going along fine when the other suddenly announces it's over; finished, done, period. It turns out that things were far from fine; there was a lot of denial going on, a lot of saying 'yes' when you mean 'no' and a lot of unexpressed anger simmering just below the surface. When that simmer reaches a boil, the bomb drops. How can you know if your husband is really happily married? Is there a way to tell if your marriage is bomb proof? When he says "I love you" can you believe it? Here are ten ways to know he's happy in your marriage.
Last week, I had a three-hour intensive session with a client, during which we talked through how my client, Kerry, owns her own business and feels like she is constantly working hard at her job and in her personal relationships. She is tired of being single and wants to feel supported in her life by a man she loves. And while I completely understand what she was saying, a red flag went up for me when she said she consistently feels like she has to do it all on her own.
Jealousy is a red hot topic! So many people have asked me in groups and healing sessions over the years how to deal with jealousy, how not to feel it, how to transcend it. It is good to understand that in fact, if we are jealous of someone, this feeling comes about because we are projecting some un-lived aspect of ourselves onto the person we are jealous about. We are imagining that this person is able to have a level of fulfillment that we are denied.
Why is it that so many of us put ourselves second? Why is it that we often sacrifice what is good for us to make someone else happy, and why is it such a difficult transition to start putting ourselves first? I see this issue not only every day in my office but also at times in my own life. Of course, there are those people who no matter what, without any regard for the other, place themselves first; but that is someone who is arrogant. We are not discussing arrogance here. We are simple discussing how to make a healthy transition into learning to put ourselves first.
Many women think they have sexual dysfunction when actually there is nothing wrong with them. They may have high expectations of how a woman should be during sex, which may have come from highly unrealistic literature or from the erroneous theory of vaginal versus clitoral orgasm (for more on this see Sarita's article on Great Sex for Women).
“They don't even see me!” “I repel good-looking women!” “I'm just not in the same league with the guys I'm interested in!” Finding a date can be rough. You try to look your best and act in way that will attract the right kind of attention from the right kind of person, but it isn't working. After several failed attempts, it may seem to you that the people you'd like to date aren't interested in you and never will be. It might even feel like nobody wants to date you.
Do you feel overwhelmed? Stressed? Need to pause for a moment? This mini-meditation is for those who find it difficult to meditate the academic way, and/or have little time to do it. Meditation is a powerful source of health and well-being. Even if you do not have enough free time to practice regularly and fully, a few moments of deep breathing while working on specific acupressure points are enough to help you calm down and center.
Let's face it, sometimes you only have five minutes to go from super mom to super sexy. For those occasions when you only have a few moments to spare, follow our experts' advice for how you can feel utterly irresistible in under 300 seconds.
You come home to find your partner unsteady on her feet. The smell of alcohol is overpowering. Every time she opens her mouth another wave of boozy smell washes over you and her eyes are glazed. However when you say “You have been drinking!” quick as a flash back comes the reply “No I haven’t”.