Last week I saw six couples. The majority of them were trying to make their relationship better. One of the couples is struggling with the feeling that the marriage is dying. During the session, the wife turned to the husband and said the 10 dreaded words; I love you, but am not IN LOVE with you. This means different things to different people, but to this woman’s husband it meant the marriage was over. It meant that she no longer saw the man she once did when she looked at him.
We all at one time or another have been in a relationship where the connection has been on at time and off at times. The off times of the relationship were times that brought about a rift in the connection. No relationships are going to be without it's challenges and disagreements. It's ok to disagree but mature individuals learn how to disagree without being disagreeable. Immature individuals disagree and either call it quits or part ways with much animosity and hostility.
Essentially there are two types of people in this world. There are those who believe image is everything and those who throw on a shirt from the floor and get on with their day. Can you guess which group is more likely to be single? Okay, there are some blessed freaks of nature that spend virtually no time thinking about how they present themselves to the world yet always manage to look fabulous-- and be taken-- but for the rest of us, image matters--a lot.
Once again, I disagree with Webster. He states that sexuality is ‘an involvement in sexual activity.’ In my book, sexuality encompasses much more and can be experienced with or without sexual activity. It can include many mental and physical activities that create sexual delight – a flirting gaze, an intimate conversation, a dance, a hug. Sexuality ignites our imagination and sparks our creative self. It produces charisma, passion and power. It brings openness to life and puts a bounce in our step. Are you with me?
Do you feel constantly stressed out and on edge? Or are you tired of your partner having a short fuse with you? Is stress negatively affecting your relationships? Are you constantly arguing? Are you feeling tired and fatigued all the time? Are you having difficulty falling and staying asleep? Is stress making you sick or causing you to gain weight? Are you having trouble concentrating? Are you moody and irritable much of time?
Patterns are your automatic, default ways of being. They’re how you naturally react to circumstances in your life. Patterns are everywhere. Life is full of them. Maybe your pattern for dealing with stress is to grab your credit card and log onto Amazon. Or run to the refrigerator, or vent to your best friend.
An ancient story from the Hasidic tradition tells of a rabbi who had a conversation with God about Heaven and Hell. “I will show you Hell,” said the Lord, and led the rabbi into a room containing a group of famished, desperate people sitting around a large, circular table. In the center of the table rested an enormous pot of stew, more than enough for everyone. The smell of the stew was delicious and made the rabbi’s mouth water. Yet no one ate.
Not too long ago, we were talking about family matters with a friend. Our friend is divorced and has raised some intelligent, thoughtful children. Her parenting and relationship experiences, fine-tuned and paid for (most recently) with the intentional sacrifice of another intimate relationship, are helpful to many others in her circle of friends and family. She had deliberately postponed another intimate relationship (marriage), waiting until her children were grown up.
Cosmo writing about Brain Science. Now there is an unlikely couple. Proof positive that the cutting edge of love self sabotage research today is finding the most misunderstood sexual organ of all...your Brain. Nothing happens without your brain's permission. However, this is as far away from logic, reason and thought as you can possibly imagine. Few would argue that the brain is in charge of forming thoughts, intentions and affirmations. What if I were to tell you that all of the above are a waste of your time and your brain's skill.<
One of the most powerful benefits of working with a dating coach privately is that you get answers when a dramatic internal battle ensures regarding what to say to a man. Here are a few of my best scripts to help you communicate your needs in a way that is feminine, sexy, confident and effective. Scenario #1: He is always sending you texts and you prefer to take it to the phone.