Many of the women I work with tell me that they have trouble expressing their anger with their partner. Either they blow up and lose control, or they hold back and never say what they really feel. In both instances, a woman is not being authentic when she does not express her true feelings. And men feel safer loving women who feel authentic. It may not be something he can even put words to, but he just knows when she is being who she really is.
“He keeps coming back and I let him in every time.” “A part of me cannot let go. I want it to work out between us even though I know he isn’t the one.” I heard the sound of quiet weeping on the other end of the phone. “Is there anything in you that whispers that he might truly change and that you would feel valued, respected and loved?” I asked gently. “No.” Sighed Sarah. “I'm afraid he is as good as it gets.”
Why is it the one time a really great opportunity comes your way, you have to turn it down? How can you be so close to grabbing the brass ring, only to have to let it pass you by? I'm at the carwash, thinking about nothing, and a woman is worrying to her friend: "I just don't know what to do. My boss is pushing me for an answer: am I taking the position out of state, am I not – and I still don’t know what to tell him." "It's a great opportunity," her friend replies.
Without a doubt, breakups are sad. They always include pain, even in the most agreeable splits. Pain is part of the deal, but the struggle, drama and misery are totally optional. In this article I am not going to tell you the secrets to avoiding pain all together. That would just make me a liar and a bad friend.
Most think of time management, but I like to think of it as time mastery. When you master time instead of managing it, you create time instead being a victim to it. Once you take control of your time and use it effectively, you will eventually have all the time to do everything you want and need. I call it Whole Life Planning For Conscious Living. In whole life planning, you know:
Oh, I know it can be hard to admit – that we contributed to that awful fight we had with our man, that is. Especially when it’s OBVIOUS he wasn’t listening to us AT ALL – and to top it all off, he had the audacity to use the words ‘overreacting’ and ‘unreasonable’? !
Our overall sense of wellbeing is 50% constitutional, 10% circumstantial, and 40% controllable, says Dr. Henry Cloud, author of The Law of Happiness. Dr. Cloud said in a CNN story that the majority of people’s effort to improve their lives, for example with their job or a new car, can bump up their happiness level by 10%, but then it goes back down. However, much is still within our control when it comes to becoming happier. He says that happy people do the following 5 things. I’ve added tips on how we can adapt the advice for a happier marriage.
No matter how hot you are for each other when you get married and no matter how long you are married before it begins, you may have to deal with boring sex at some point. Boring sex happens in many marriages as a fleeting feeling. In other marriages, boring sex can become the only type of sex. It is easy to understand how this can come about. You share your life, your bed, and your being with another person that you know and love. The most intimate thing a couple shares is their love making.
Ballerina Nina Sayers (Natalie Portman), central character in Darren Aronofsky's Academy Award-nominated film Black Swan, has clearly disowned a major part of her emotional experience, leading a stunted, child-like existence under the watchful eye of her mother Erica (Barbara Hershey). From the opening scene, staged in the apartment shared by mother and daughter, Director Aronofsky vividly conveys a repressive, infantilized atmosphere.