This morning one of my six year-old daughters confided in me that she is having a problem at school. When I asked her about it, she said that one of her friends, Sam, isn't talking to her anymore. In fact, he got in trouble yesterday because he put his fingers in his ears and stuck out his tongue when she tried to talk to him. Since she dearly loves Sam, this is particularly upsetting. She added, "It makes me so sad when he does that. I think the relationship might end!"
I want you to know that I know and understand where you are at in your life. I was once there too. There was a time when I was single and in “manifesting mode”- what I mean by that is I decided to intentionally do the internal work to make the shifts and changes in ME and my core beliefs about life, love and men.
Working with couples makes one thing clear – we all at one point or another struggle with staying close to the people we care about most. I am lucky to be able to work with so many people that I understand that this is normal but for those that aren’t in the coaching business, I share with you one of my favorite metaphors that describes the discomfort of being close to people.
When I’m seeing clients, a really big part of my job is to educate them. During the session they come in stating “we don’t have intimacy” – “I wish he was more intimate” with me. My first priority is to make sure each partner knows what intimacy means and more importantly that they both each know what each other’s definition is so they are on the same page. This is often the bud of miscommunication. I also want to educate them on the two different types of intimacy, physical and emotional.
I just spoke to a client who needed some reassurance that she wasn’t making a mistake in marrying her loving, caring, passionate, open, honest partner with whom she shares core values and is aligned in terms of life goals. Given that list of qualities about her clearly healthy relationship, how could this be a mistake?
Andrew, a new client of mine, is very enthusiastic about what he is learning about Inner Bonding. Naturally, he wants to share his experience with his wife, children, other family and friends. Yet he finds himself time and again coming up against their resistance. They don't want to be converted to Inner Bonding or anything else. They don't want new words and concepts imposed upon them.
There's certainly a lot of buzz being created by the reunion of Rihanna and Chris Brown. There are always two sides of every story and this one is no different. It's interesting. There are various perspectives and opinions being shared out there by family, friends and fans about whether their getting back together is a good or bad decision. This is a classic case of Ying and Yang. Let's explore the pros and cons about the views and challenges this young celebrity couple are facing as they go through this very public reunion full of controversy.
From cheating online to lamenting a break up that has moved on — I hear about how Facebook has supposedly ruined their marriage or their dating relationship. But guess what? Facebook didn't do anything. The responsibility here lies on the people involved ... not the technology. Here are some quick tips for you to remember on how to keep your relationship offline and healthy. It all starts with boundaries.
I was completely horrified as I heard the sound of my mother's voice coming from my mouth. Words I swore I would never say to my children came pouring out, and I could not stop. All those dreams I had of creating a better life for my kids than the one I grew up with disappeared, to be replace with a sense of rage and futility. Why was my present parenting being controlled by my abusive history? I felt victimized all over again, and determined to find a solution.
What happened to the days of men being more aggressive in their pursuit of the woman they were interested in? When you think about the way men have changed over the years, it has much to do with the change in women. Women have become far too willing to make the first move and give up their ‘hallelujah sunshine’ too easily, so why should men take the initiative and put forth effort in the pursuit when so many women are making it so easy for them?