Couples often come to me for help with their communication. In fact, virtually every couple that I have ever seen has stated in one form or another that they have trouble communicating. They are usually referring to the way in which they verbally communicate with each other. However, there is another form of communication that is even more important and largely misunderstood, and that is the way the partners are thinking about each other.
There is a question I used to dread. As a relationship coach, I often hear clients (especially after a divorce) asking why bother with marriage? With all the gusto they can muster, they will inevitably tell me they will never get married again and that marriage doesn’t work!!! They don’t know anyone with a happy marriage and if it looks happy, it’s probably fake anyway.
Relax. Remember that this is only a first date. Don’t get too far ahead of yourself thinking about where the relationship is going. One of the easiest ways to get thrown off balance is to worry about what your date thinks of you. You should be evaluating him. Pay attention closely to what he is saying and doing so that you can decide if he is worthy of you.
So, my husband borrowed my body wash, and I am still waiting to get it back. He forgot to buy some during our prior trip to the store and he was yelling from the shower, “I need some soap!!!” I went into the shower carrying my body wash and with a smirk said, “This is all I got, but it smells girly”. He rolled his eyes, yanked it from my hands and closed the curtain.
I have taken a very close look at one of the biggest anxiety producers for parents these days: Getting our kids into college. In my research I have found some truths, some myths, and some different ways of looking at this issue that might decrease our own worries and increase the likelihood of success for our kids. In this article I am going to focus on the myth that it is harder than ever to get into college.
The other day, my friend was distraught over how his wife has been treating him lately. The two had begun the process of getting divorced when she suddenly had a change in attitude and promised she would change. Sadly, that promise lasted only a couple of weeks. After we discussed the situation, we began exploring what he should expect from his partner and it led me to think about what characteristics I should be looking for in a man so that I don’t end up in a similar situation someday.
I was checking for lipstick on my teeth or unseemly static cling before heading to my first "Full Moon" ceremony, a willing newbie ready for the New Age, when my husband came up behind me. "You look great," Gavin said, peering over my shoulder into the mirror. His gaze was frankly appreciative of my sensuous get-up. "What time do you think you'll be home?"
I found myself pacing. Walking back and forth with really nothing in hand. Trying to find something, anything, that would satisfy. On the last walk-through, I realized I wasn’t dealing with the real issue. I wasn’t hungry but I was taking out my stress in the kitchen. With the final pass-through I realized what was going on. I wasn’t hungry, I was feeling anxious. I was anxious about a zillion little things that apparently have been building throughout the entire day.
I had an interesting exchange after posting on my Facebook profile this morning. Here’s what I wrote: I'm allergic to the words “LOOK” & “KEEP” when it comes to men… Excited about showing elite goddesses around the world how to easily ATTRACT a successful, quality man & have him COMMIT QUICKLY. Andy: What does “LOOK” & “KEEP” mean concerning men
In the year since I launched breakup recovery website Pink Kisses, I've heard all kinds of stories about women getting over heartbreak with moxie, courage and just plain determination. My team and I have come to recognize significant breakups as turning points and chances for redefinition that are rarely simple or easy. We've noticed some things that just seem to be universally true about getting over a broken heart, whether it's moving on after a two-month relationship or a 17-year marriage. We're constantly mesmerized by people's stories.