I know what you're thinking... Did she, the relationship coach, just tell me to ignore my relationship? Well, yes and no. Of course you need to pay attention to your relationship. You need to continuously feed it so it will grow and be well cared for. But, here's what I notice: Sometimes we can obsess and worry our relationships to death! Literally, the pressure builds up with our negative focus and it squeezes the life out of it.
Here are even more tips for preventing an affair in your relationship. Affair Proofing Tip #3: BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS and take care of your mental health When human beings aren’t happy, we may start to develop dysfunctional ways of dealing with emotional pain. We may gamble, drink, do drugs, sit like sloths and play video games all day, start taking it out on family or coworkers, sleep more, or find other ways to distract ourselves from the pain.
Common Causes of Marital Discord -- Including Infidelity -- and Their Resolution Although no two situations are alike, there are some common patterns that often result in marital conflict and sometimes in infidelity in a marriage or committed relationship. Note that they are not mutually exclusive. They are described below. I. Unacknowledged or Unresolved Anger or Resentment
First there's the shock. "Oh my God! It's happened!" Your worst fear is realized; your partner is having an affair. Anger, despair, shock, and fear all swirl around seemingly at once and cloud your thinking until it feels like there is no way out. Eventually, you and your partner decide to seek help. Calls are made, appointments are set, and with the help of a qualified therapist, you both begin the process of healing.
Relationships can truly be the source of our greatest pleasures in life. I am truly committed to helping people discover that they actually have the power to create such profoundly loving and nurturing relationships. In my first three articles I’ve discussed the transformational process of getting out of the box, and accessing your true self that is always waiting to be expressed. This is true for everyone—especially you!!
“I hate on-line dating!” Maggie sighed. “Everyone lies and posts pictures of themselves from 15 years ago.” “I know what you mean,” moaned Lisa. “I want a guy over 6 feet and the last three matches were all under 5′ 8, fat and bald!” Can you relate? Have you worked and worked on your on-line profile and still attract people you would never pick for yourself? What’s wrong with the system?
Want to protect your relationship from an affair? Follow these rules to greatly improve your chances. Affair Proofing Rule #1: STAY CLOSE and keep your relationship fun and fresh! One of the reasons people say they have affairs is they start to feel lonely in their marriages. They don’t feel valued, interesting or attractive to their partner. Contrary to popular belief, both men and women have affairs for emotional reasons, not necessarily sexual. Both are seeking to feel attractive, important and listened to.
One of my favorite things to work on with clients in my private hypnotherapy practice is the art and science of de-hypnotizing ourselves. The process begins with acknowledging our feelings and making choices based upon what is right and good for us. For instance, how many times have you said "yes" to someone when you knew it was too much for you to take on? Or bought the cheaper version of something because "I don't really need the nicer one," even though it would have made you feel incredible and in reality it was not that much more expensive?
Sexual assault is not an occasional happening. A woman is assaulted every two and a half minutes in the United States. When you consider that at least half of the assaults go unreported, that is a staggering number of women and girls whose lives are affected negatively by this trauma.
Open a magazine or flip on the tv and you will notice a disturbing trend. Most of the people you’ll see are young and free of wrinkles. And tan. And in shape. And seemingly, endlessly happy. This of course, implicitly (and explicitly) sends the message that happiness lies in youth. And while we are all aware of the joys and benefits of being young (and even what’s scary about aging), how many are really in touch with the ADVANTAGES of getting older? Stay tuned and you might just look forward to what lies ahead.