Let’s say you have been dating someone exclusively for several months. The guy (or gal) you are dating has some wonderful qualities. You enjoy being with him (or her) and may even like his family and friends. However, something’s not just right. You can’t really put your finger on it. You would like to give yourself completely to the relationship and yet, something is telling you to that you should be looking outside the relationship and perhaps, to date other people. You may be in an almost relationship. That is one that is “almost, not quite”.
Spring is here, which means that summer is coming, which means that everyone is starting to freak out about wearing shorts and bathing suits in the very near future. It happens every year. We feel the weather starting to shift and, suddenly, "bikini body boot camps" start popping up all over the place, and everyone you know starts doing a cleanse.
It was a typical glamorous day in the life of Lara Fernandez. Standing in a long line at the local grocery store, short on time and patience, mindlessly watching the customers ahead of me buying their groceries. As I slowly and painfully inched closer to the checkout counter, I noticed, one customer ahead of me, an interaction between the checkout lady and two Latino men who looked like day laborers. They obviously didn’t speak any English as they tried to swipe their debit card and punch the correct buttons in the credit card machine to pay for their food.
I am sure you have heard the term “it’s not you it’s me.” Maybe you have used this yourself to let some one down easily. Maybe you had an EX end your relationship with this line. “It’s not you it’s me” can be seen as the largest relationship break-up line. It usually means it IS you. It is probably not just one little thing that you did and maybe you did nothing wrong at all. There is a reason your EX is not at the same level in the relationship that you are. He or she may just not be that into you.
Tough Love is… A hard and sometimes sad road we must walk down. It is a process we use when we need to step away from control or stop our desire to help a loved one who has become too dependent on drugs or alcohol. It could also be used for a person who just needs a huge wake up call when they are self destructing their own life, or the welfare of another.
Last week I listened to a clip of Dan Savage, syndicated columnist of an article titled “Savage Love.” He was talking about how to make it work when you’re in a long term relationship. One of the things he suggested was to notice the best version of your partner. He said that long term relationships survive when each partner insists on noticing the best version of their partner, even when their partner isn’t displaying that particular version of themselves. It’s excellent advice, and it got me thinking.
Where are you when it comes to piloting your own love life? Are you still single and pending lot of energy in the past? Are you lonelier than ever and about to give up on love? Don't do it! Today I am doing a real Oracle card reading especially for those of you who are feeling sad and discouraged about finding a soulmate.
For one reason or another, your relationship ended and like many people, you want him or her back. You want to get who you had back and you've got a good idea of how to accomplish this monumental task. Of course, the relevant question here should be "Should you try to get your ex back?" There are good reasons and there are bad reasons to get back together with someone. It's all about examining the cause of the breakup and the reasons behind your current urge to get back together with him or her.
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There is a photograph of lemons in my office. I wrote a book in which one of the chapters is titled "Making Lemons into Lemonade." I am all about exploring loss, working through loss, feeling the pain, coming out on the other side, and figuring out how loss makes you grow. I encourage my clients to find a new lens for understanding their greatest disappointments. I believe that those who look hard enough at their loss can even find joy and new meaning in their their life that would not be there were it not for their most devastating heartbreaks.