Recently I was chatting with a good friend of mine, and bless his heart…… one of his EX girlfriends….. was giving him the….. longest…… line about how hopeless life looked because she feared she’d be single forever AND he being the good guy he is… asked me what he could do to make her feel better.
Part of finding more dates is getting right with yourself. If you're too busy listening to the conversations in your head, then chances are that opportunities are passing you by right and left. If you are stuck on past failed attempts, how can you be successful at talking to the person right in front of you? When you engage in these destructive behaviors, your relationships continue to suffer.
How do you know when you’ve found “the One?” Allow me to first dispel a common myth. Most of us have more than one “the One” in our life. With very few exceptions, we will all experience more than one great love in our lives. Each person who shows up as a great love is there to teach us a lesson (or two) and to bring us closer to unconditional love. Everyone who shows up as love in your life is one of your soul mates. Did you know you had more than one soul mate? We all do.
I’ve never done this before, but at this point it doesn’t hurt trying to get some help. My boyfriend and I had been dating for two years, we had been friends since we were 14 (now 19), and had developed feelings for each other when I was 15, him 16. It was constantly us together, all the time and I love it. We finally started dating when I was 17 and both of us could not have been any happier.
Hi Essy. I really need some advice. Now I saw what you said about the rule of thumb being three months, but my ex and I have been ‘dating’ for about three months and in a relationship for about 6 weeks. I made some major mistakes in our relationship, like the fact that he is always hanging around his female friends, or the fact that he let one female friend stay over at his house on her way to Saskatchewan to see her boyfriend.
Have you noticed that indiscriminately following your attractions often ends in disaster? If so, you've come to the right place. In this series of articles, I'll take you on the chemistry journey of your life. As we travel together, you'll begin to look at your relationships differently. You will be empowered at times when you've previously felt lost or confused. Let's begin.
1. The Unavailable Relationship In an unavailable relationship, your partner doesn’t show up, doesn’t call and is never there, unless he or she wants something or it suits their agenda. In this relationship you may feel the disappointment of always waiting for the other person to appear, and no matter how many times you talk to them about not showing up their behavior doesn’t change. They aren’t available for themselves so they create this experience within and for their partner.
The age-old question: What makes a person in a marriage or committed relationship cheat? Despite recent articles that suggest that there is a cheating gene ingrained into the DNA of some men (Really? *rolls eyes*), the real answer depends on whether you’re talking about a woman or a man. Several credible infidelity studies have found that men and women who are cheating on their spouses gave different reasons to justify their extramarital affairs.
Jennifer's friends keep urging her to date again. It's been about 6 months since the painful breakup with her ex-boyfriend and she's just not sure if she's ready yet. To be honest, she's not sure if she'll ever be ready to date again. Being cheated on, lied to and dumped by her ex-boyfriend has left Jennifer feeling leery and apprehensive of men. Jennifer's friends suggest that she won't fully heal until she finds another guy and sees that all men aren't like her ex. Jennifer is not so sure.
Jennifer is stunned. Her long-term, live-in boyfriend, Rob, came home from work last night and announced to her that he is moving out temporarily because he needs some “space.” Rob's announcement took Jennifer completely by surprise. She knew that their relationship had its challenges and rough spots, but she felt like things between them were starting to even out. They hadn't been arguing as much lately.