Remember as a child playing a game, when something would go awry and your playmates would say, “I dare you to do that.” You’d look nervous and frightened, and then they would say, “I double dare you.” Now you’re in a pickle! You don’t want to look cowardly even though you’re tempted to say, “Oh no, I can’t do that”. BUT if you say that then you suffer the consequences of being called, “chicken, baby, scaredy cat, and etc.” Remember how good it felt when you took the dare and WON!
There are nearly seven billion people alive on the planet today and approximately half of them are single. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that the odds of finding love are working in your favor. In fact, one statistician believes that there are 1.3 million possible soul mates available for each of us.
Many times, when I see single women in my office for therapy, they talk about the men they are dating. I have always been struck with how they still wait for the text message before going to sleep, and lose endless nights of sleep if their boyfriend hasn’t called them. They become physically anxious as they describe the tension they feel, wondering if this guy is going to ask them out for the weekend.
Imagine if FedEx could deliver your mate to you. Wouldn’t it be lovely if you could skip dating all together? OK, Wishful Thinker, time to wake up and come back to reality. If there is a way to meet great prospects without dating, I haven’t heard of it yet. And...the more you fear dating, the longer your wait for true love. Can you learn to actually ENJOY dating? Or at least tolerate it? Absolutely!
Now that we survived the Ides of March and are in the middle of March Madness, it's time to pause and celebrate St. Patrick's Day. Whether you know the history of St. Patrick or not, it's the perfect time to get ready for spring fever and brush up on your flirting skills. You don't need to be Irish to get into the spirit. Practice these 5 flirting skills and you'll likely have a date on your calendar in time for the weekend.
When you find out while dating that your relationship is going to become a long distance relationship due to either one or both person’s jobs, which way do you run? If you run away from each other to deal with the stressors involved with re-locating, then you may not be so lucky.
I remember in my early twenties considering the idea of not being married. Three facts swirled through my mind constantly… all adding up to me thinking I wasn’t “marriage material:” 1) My parents are divorced. What if I was to make the same mistakes they did?! 2) Independent woman syndrome. I was completely capable of taking care of myself and proud of it. What on earth did I need a spouse for?!
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. It all started with the Marital Rating Scale. You've heard of eHarmony and Match.com, of course. These and other high tech matchmaking services have their roots in a low tech project started 80 years ago.
Have you ever gone out on a date on which you felt you really connected with the guy? The conversation is awesome. You have so much in common. He has a great sense of humor that has you laughing throughout the night. There's even a moment in the middle of your date where your mind wonders what it would be like to have sex with this guy. At the end of the date, he tells you how much he likes you, and how he would like to get together again. He seems like the perfect guy… the guy you've been waiting for.
There’s a split among experts about whether the kids or the relationship should come first. Frankly, I think putting your relationship first is putting your kids first. Why? Because if you want your children to grow up and have healthy, well-balanced relationships, a fulfilling sex-life, and a good sense of self, it starts with you setting the example.