What if you could create anything you want? Anything? YES ANYTHING! You would have a super life wouldn't you? Well my friendly readers, I am here to tell you right here and right now that there is a blank canvas in front of you; and you can paint anything that you want on it. Want a great relationship? Then paint it. Want more money? Then Paint it. Want more happiness, yeah I know you got it by now. :).
Life isn't perfect. I'm fairly certain it isn't meant to be. There can be aspects that are works in progress and areas where we're growing and learning. But if overall you can't say that you love your life, it is time to start asking why not.
Do you often hear couples say we have communication problems? Do you know couples who hardly talk to each other? Or Couples that try to discuss an issue but end up in a screaming match? It seems reasons couples have difficulty are that couples often feel something is wrong if their partner disagrees with them. Which often results in an argument where a couple gets stuck in a heated battle to get the other to agree. The other reason is that couples have trouble understanding the dynamics in their relationship.
"She's always spending, spending spending!" "He's so cheap, I can't stand it anymore!" These are just some of the familiar comments that I hear from my clients when money starts ripping them apart. Let me assure you, by following a few simple rules, you can rule money instead of it ruling your relationship. Rule #1 What out come do you desire?
I went to Costa Rica about two and one-half years ago, with a man I guessed would be my future. The plan was to go for 3 months, write our books, and come back to the US and figure out what to do next. I was to keep an open mind. I kept an open mind about 3 things that were deal-breakers to me. I even had a psychic tell me that those 3 things really would not be important down the road, keep an open mind….
With what is going on in the economy men tend to go inward when they are concerned about their finances or their jobs. They aren’t thinking about dating other than maybe to get laid, which relieves them of the worry for a short time. Even though you’re worried as well, men take it as a jolt against their manhood. It’s not personal because they really can’t see you when their mind is filled with concerns about their future and their financial world.
For me, being connected to others and related to them requires an element of caring. In the past, I have often dismissed the impact I have when make an extra effort to support, encourage or help out. I'm learning to take time these day to acknowledge the difference I make for others.
“Is it just a natural part of getting older together that our sex life is going the way of the Dodo?” asked Brenda and Simon. “We really care for each other, but on the rare times it happens, sex is pretty dull.” Tammy Nelson made quite a stir in 2008 with her book Getting the Sex You Want in which she applied Imago Relationship Therapy to restoring the love lives of couples like Simon and Brenda.
"It's like being back in high school," Kim told me as we buzzed through Philadelphia in her bright blue 1991 Honda with its duct-taped back window and missing stereo. "It's like taking one step backward to take one step forward." She was talking about her return after college to her childhood bedroom and mom and dad in Upper Darby, PA.