You know the punch-lines to all his jokes. You're that couple who sit in a restaurant with nothing to say. At bedtime you never thought you'd be pretending to have a headache. "I can't make myself feel any different," one woman in my office told me tearfully. "The magic's gone."
I’ve talked to some clients that would rather trade in their cush desk job to work in a barn for six months than talk about sexuality with their partners! Most people don’t know where to begin with the conversation and are completely fine not ever bringing it up. However, you both are missing big opportunities to get closer by not discussing it. Here are some tools on how to navigate through these conversations:
During the first year of my divorce, I went through an intense sexual awakening. For the first time in my life, I dared to listen to – and follow – what my body wanted, from dating younger men and attending a sex club, to flying off to different country to meet dashing and exciting new lovers…
It fascinates me to see how we all dance in relationship in similar ways. Aspects of every love story break-up or dysfunction can be recognized in our own lives. I have experienced my heart shutting down when a man in my life behaves like the little boy, needy for love, or the bad little boy, guilty and afraid that he will not be loved. Yes, it can be a turn off, but closing my own heart will only create a separation between us. While he is feeling his wound from childhood, he is looking for approval or love.
While some people are inappropriately labeled "sex addicts" — providing a blanket excuse for all kinds of irresponsible sexual behavior — others truly suffer from uncontrollable sexual impulses, or sex addiction. The main symptoms of sex addiction include a loss of control, failed attempts to stop unwanted sexual behavior, and a pattern of negative consequences from anxiety to depression and legal problems. Here are some facts about sex addiction you may not know.
Let’s say you have been dating someone exclusively for several months. The guy (or gal) you are dating has some wonderful qualities. You enjoy being with him (or her) and may even like his family and friends. However, something’s not just right. You can’t really put your finger on it. You would like to give yourself completely to the relationship and yet, something is telling you to that you should be looking outside the relationship and perhaps, to date other people. You may be in an almost relationship. That is one that is “almost, not quite”.
Spring is here, which means that summer is coming, which means that everyone is starting to freak out about wearing shorts and bathing suits in the very near future. It happens every year. We feel the weather starting to shift and, suddenly, "bikini body boot camps" start popping up all over the place, and everyone you know starts doing a cleanse.
It was a typical glamorous day in the life of Lara Fernandez. Standing in a long line at the local grocery store, short on time and patience, mindlessly watching the customers ahead of me buying their groceries. As I slowly and painfully inched closer to the checkout counter, I noticed, one customer ahead of me, an interaction between the checkout lady and two Latino men who looked like day laborers. They obviously didn’t speak any English as they tried to swipe their debit card and punch the correct buttons in the credit card machine to pay for their food.
I am sure you have heard the term “it’s not you it’s me.” Maybe you have used this yourself to let some one down easily. Maybe you had an EX end your relationship with this line. “It’s not you it’s me” can be seen as the largest relationship break-up line. It usually means it IS you. It is probably not just one little thing that you did and maybe you did nothing wrong at all. There is a reason your EX is not at the same level in the relationship that you are. He or she may just not be that into you.
Tough Love is… A hard and sometimes sad road we must walk down. It is a process we use when we need to step away from control or stop our desire to help a loved one who has become too dependent on drugs or alcohol. It could also be used for a person who just needs a huge wake up call when they are self destructing their own life, or the welfare of another.