Remember the day you gazed into the eyes of your prospective partner and truly grasped that their excitement about you matched your fascination with them? You saw your idealized self reflected back to you in their soft smiling eyes. You were hooked like a fish attracted to a shiny new lure that caters to its most vulnerable characteristics.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Janice Wood Members of the military are more likely to be married and, despite the challenges of making a marriage work with unpredictable schedules and frequent separations due to deployments, are not more vulnerable to divorce than civilian marriages.
Reading marital statistics today is akin to viewing a nation-wide obituary. The once sacrosanct union has permanently lost its halo and now entered the dead zone, with marital stability taking a nose dive of unprecedented proportions over the last several decades. As things go, unfortunately, the decline shows no sign of plateauing. According to Jennifer Baker of Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri, 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce.
A big, looming question after the breakup seems to be, "Can we still be friends?" Unfortunately the answer is probably no. There are several reasons for this, but first and foremost is that even after the most amicable breakup, the people involved need some time so they can work through their feelings and sift through the ruins of the relationship.
Okay, so here you are. The papers are signed, the lawyers have been paid and your husband is now officially your ex-husband. As you take a moment to look down the road the thought of dating another man is paralyzing and full of fear isn’t it?
By SMF Marcus Osborne for GalTime.com Ok, maybe hate is too strong a word. Maybe a less harsh phrase like "incompatible personalities" lands a little softer. But for whatever reason, your guy and your best friend(s) can't quite seem to get in sync socially. Whether there are constant, overt personality clashes or very subtle and consistent tensions between the most important people in your life, the long-term effects are no less devastating.
You know you can’t change people. If you could, everyone around you would be exactly the way you want them to be and your relationships would all be simple and perfect. I’m going to venture a guess that that’s not the case. Knowing that you can’t change them, many people take what they think is their only option—the über enlightened approach trying to accept their “other” exactly as they are. I totally laud you, enlightened ones. Acceptance feels good. It’s kind. It’s the ideal state, no doubt.
Contrary to popular belief, divorce isn't always negative for kids — sometimes it's excellent for kids. Here are five ways that your children can benefit from your divorce.