Today I'm talking about the voices in your head - although, not in a Multiple Personality Disorder way. I'm talking about that team of folks who take up residence in your brain and tell you things like, "You're not going to be good enough at that," or "You don't deserve to be that happy," or "Who do you think you are?".
We all know the scenario. You are having a great time with your partner, and then a touchy topic comes up. All of a sudden you note your partner’s mood changing. You ask them what is wrong and they say very flippantly, “Nothing.” You know the thing this is not, is “nothing.” So as a good gesture you put your arm around them and say “Come on, I know something is bothering you.” You get stone silence instead. No matter what you say, nothing will draw your partner out. Your partner then walks into another room.
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Todd and Emily fought about almost everything. They argued about their work schedules and household chores. They fought about visits with their families. They clashed over paying bills, taking the dog for a walk and watching programs on television. Todd and Emily each felt unappreciated and unrecognized in their relationship. Whenever an opportunity arose to complain about the other they grabbed it – making accusations, dismissing their partner’s efforts as inadequate, and demanding to have their way.
Nobody wants to be that girl (or that guy). I’m talking about the desperate one who’s always chasing after someone who’s just not that into her. The insecure one in a relationship who can’t spend an hour apart from her partner without checking her cellphone and email -- or his. Trouble is, once you’re in a relationship, worrying that you’re too needy can prevent you from connecting in ways that nurture genuine, healthy closeness.
“It must be a shock to you.” Simple words from my supervisor that captured the moment, bringing me back 5 days earlier when my wife and I spent a lazy Sunday watching Ben Affleck and Tommy Lee Jones victimized by corporate downsizing in the film “Company Men”. I Whispered in my wife’s ear midway through the film, “It must be terrible for people to go through that.”
We are all quite aware of the issues around dating. The questions, the not knowing, the nervousness, the unknown of whether he/she likes me and/or do we have a future together? But often. after some of these questions are answered and we find ourselves nicely secure with our partners, inevitably more issues, which cause just as much angst, confusion, anxiety and stress, will start to pop up.
The foods you consume make a dramatic impact on your mood and total energy levels. And so when planning an evening with your partner or “special somebody”, a few key ingredients can serve to stir up some added passion. Ohh, and don’t forget to eat it slowly, relishing every morsel! When you slow down, you eat less, which affords you added energy and you become more mindful of your body; who knows where that could lead?
Taking Charge of Your Day Do you jump out of bed in the morning and hit the ground running so that you get everything you have to do done? Do you wake up with some dread and delay because you're just not very excited about it or it feels like too much? Or do you get up feeling somewhat resigned to what you need to do today and get yourself going without much thought?
We live in a world that is speeding up at exponential proportions. Whirling and swirling, racing on the Hamster Wheel, and continually multi-tasking are not the state human beings were meant to be in. On many levels our hormones respond to this lifestyle by continually being in an over-stimulated state, creating many levels of imbalances and toxicity in our lives. Connecting with what truly matters to us is very difficult, if not impossible, when living your life this way.