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Do We Love To Hate Our Bodies?

Do We Love To Hate Our Bodies?

The other day, I was talking with a client who has lost about thirty pounds towards her goal of fifty. She even found this remarkable when she realized that the thirty-pound bags of soil she was dragging around her yard were the equivalent of what she had lost and had been carrying around every moment of every day. Yet, rather than being ecstatic about how well she’s doing, she was more bothered by the wrinkles that were showing up on her thinner face and the new bat wings on her slender arms.

How To Have Confidence With A Small Penis

How To Have Confidence With A Small Penis

As a Sex Coach I get asked a lot about penis size. What's normal? How can I make my penis bigger? How do I have more confidence in bed? I've spoken with many urologists on this topic and there is nothing you can physically do to make it larger (safely) - a penis pump will only work temporarily and is not recommended. Let's get some facts straight first, the average penis size is 5 - 6 1/2 inches, so what are you really considering small? 

How do I know if I'm addicted to sex?

How do I know if I'm addicted to sex?

Ever wondered if you might be addicted to sex?  Here's a quick test developed by Patrick Carnes: P: PREOCCUPIED – Do you find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts? A: ASHAMED – Do you hide some of your sexual behavior from others? T: TREATMENT – Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you didn’t like? H: HURT OTHERS – Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior? O: OUT OF CONTROL – Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?

Internet filters / Accountability programs

Internet filters / Accountability programs

I'm often asked about good computer filters, so I thought I'd write a bit here to help you get started with some basic information. For parents, these programs can be very helpful to limit your child's access to certain sites on the internet. For sex addicts or those who struggle with pornography, setting up filters and accountability software is a vital component of successful recovery.

Creating Connections: Draw Them In

Creating Connections: Draw Them In

Many years ago, an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it   "Outwitted" by Edwin Markham He drew a circle that shut me out — Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout. But Love and I had the wit to win: We drew a circle that took him in!  

Authentic Wellness…More or Less

Authentic Wellness…More or Less

When people tell me about their current wellness plan, they often tell me about what they should be doing.  I should… run more, sit at the computer less, eat more fiber, eat less junk, get out with friends more, sleep less, sleep more, stress less, get to church more, complain less, meditate more…and so forth.  I’m sure you can, more or less, fill in your own shoulds.  I started wondering how authenticity, as in, being who you are

G-SPOT MASSAGE and GENITAL ARMORING

G-SPOT MASSAGE and GENITAL ARMORING

G-spot massage is an intimate connection of a new kind in our culture, and women vary greatly in their responses to it. In a typical G-spot massage session a woman may experience anything and everything, from intense emotional and physical pain to rapture and sexual ecstasy. In order to understand why, it’s helpful to have a clear understanding of armoring; a process whereby past traumatic experiences are stored in the muscular tissues of the body.

Are You Breastfeeding Your Boyfriend? 3 Ways To Stop

Are You Breastfeeding Your Boyfriend? 3 Ways To Stop

The breast feeding “Time” cover this month, can be tied in to dating and relationships of course. If you're a mother or have never even changed a diaper, you could be breastfeeding, or in essence, turning off your boyfriend or husband. Don't get me wrong, Breasts and the surrounding areas are a great place for your lover to spend lots of quality time. But doting on him like his mother, will turn him off faster than you say “got milk?”

 Revitalize Your Radiance With Two Little Words

Revitalize Your Radiance With Two Little Words

Your best friend calls. She’s had a fight with her boyfriend. Your sister sends you a text. She needs help with the kids tomorrow afternoon so she can get to the massage appointment she scheduled for herself a month ago. Your boss calls and asks if you can show up to work an hour earlier than usual and plan to work an extra shift because a co-worker just called in sick. Do any of these scenarios sound familiar?