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A Better Mother's Day After Divorce

A Better Mother's Day After Divorce

Mother’s Day is one of the many holidays that can be re-created after divorce. You are not bound by old rituals or routine like going to Mother’s Day brunch every year. You can create novel ways to spend the day based on your own passions and desires. If Mother’s Day has never been your thing, you have the option to not celebrate it at all. It’s all about you when you don’t have the obligations of a husband and in-laws. You can even ignore it all together.

7 Days Of Sex: Episode Three-Peat

7 Days Of Sex: Episode Three-Peat

7 Days of Sex, a new Lifetime reality series, is giving new promise to married couples around the country. The underlying premise of 7 Days of Sex is that couples who promise to have sex seven consecutive days in a row will experience greater intimacy and understanding, along with a renewed spark in the bedroom.

Texting Tips: Don't Settle For Crumbs

Texting Tips: Don't Settle For Crumbs

It's easy to find dating advice and texting tips on line, and because of the internet you may think the old rules of dating no longer apply. It’s true they’ve changed the way you “meet” a man and start initial contact, but it hasn't changed the personal effort it takes to create a romantic relationship between two people. It will always require in person, face-to-face contact.

5 Steps On Increasing Your Awareness

5 Steps On Increasing Your Awareness

 Remember the old wives’ tale curiosity killed the cat, but in this case curiosity leads to a better understanding of self and can save the relationship. Being curious can lead to 5 distinct levels of awareness and with each level there is an increase in conscious behavior. The more conscious you become the easier it is to have relationships that are satisfying and easier to recognize what is making some relationships difficult. You will experience yourself at different levels of awareness depending up the issue.

Do We Love To Hate Our Bodies?

Do We Love To Hate Our Bodies?

The other day, I was talking with a client who has lost about thirty pounds towards her goal of fifty. She even found this remarkable when she realized that the thirty-pound bags of soil she was dragging around her yard were the equivalent of what she had lost and had been carrying around every moment of every day. Yet, rather than being ecstatic about how well she’s doing, she was more bothered by the wrinkles that were showing up on her thinner face and the new bat wings on her slender arms.

How To Have Confidence With A Small Penis

How To Have Confidence With A Small Penis

As a Sex Coach I get asked a lot about penis size. What's normal? How can I make my penis bigger? How do I have more confidence in bed? I've spoken with many urologists on this topic and there is nothing you can physically do to make it larger (safely) - a penis pump will only work temporarily and is not recommended. Let's get some facts straight first, the average penis size is 5 - 6 1/2 inches, so what are you really considering small? 

How do I know if I'm addicted to sex?

How do I know if I'm addicted to sex?

Ever wondered if you might be addicted to sex?  Here's a quick test developed by Patrick Carnes: P: PREOCCUPIED – Do you find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts? A: ASHAMED – Do you hide some of your sexual behavior from others? T: TREATMENT – Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you didn’t like? H: HURT OTHERS – Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior? O: OUT OF CONTROL – Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?

Internet filters / Accountability programs

Internet filters / Accountability programs

I'm often asked about good computer filters, so I thought I'd write a bit here to help you get started with some basic information. For parents, these programs can be very helpful to limit your child's access to certain sites on the internet. For sex addicts or those who struggle with pornography, setting up filters and accountability software is a vital component of successful recovery.

Creating Connections: Draw Them In

Creating Connections: Draw Them In

Many years ago, an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it   "Outwitted" by Edwin Markham He drew a circle that shut me out — Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout. But Love and I had the wit to win: We drew a circle that took him in!  

Authentic Wellness…More or Less

Authentic Wellness…More or Less

When people tell me about their current wellness plan, they often tell me about what they should be doing.  I should… run more, sit at the computer less, eat more fiber, eat less junk, get out with friends more, sleep less, sleep more, stress less, get to church more, complain less, meditate more…and so forth.  I’m sure you can, more or less, fill in your own shoulds.  I started wondering how authenticity, as in, being who you are