The greatest gift we bestow upon our children is to live an exemplary life, one they can emulate. But let’s be honest. Who among us hasn’t at one time or another done something we regret and that we hope no one will ever discover. We are all guilty of poor judgment—driving while drunk, walking out of a store without paying for a candy bar, doing illegal drugs, a seemingly innocent office flirtation that went too far, or taking an unreasonable risk. We’ve all done things that ended with our asking, “What was I thinking?”
Everybody needs a little time away, or so the song goes. Traveling has benefits for everyone: it opens our minds to new thoughts, allows us to unplug and step into something far more relaxing and pleasing to the senses than the everyday hustle and bustle. For couples and families, it's a particularly special time for reconnection and intimacy. Need more convincing? YourTango Experts have put together the top 10 benefits of a great vacation.
You might be thinking, Oh yes! I am open and have so much to give! And I sure am ready for someone to love me! But are you really ready? You see, it’s not that simple. The reason that so many relationships fail is that people haven’t done the work of getting ready by cleaning up and clearing out the past. If you find yourself repeating patterns in your relationships, you’re not ready. If you find yourself dating or attracting the same ‘type’ of person again and again, you’re not ready.
There’s nothing that compares to great sex. There’s nothing that compares to great sex. It comes with confidence, comfort with our partner and a willingness to be both vulnerable and spontaneous. But if you think sex should be a certain way, it’s very difficult to have great sex. An idea that will definitely keep you from having enjoyable sex is thinking you aren’t experienced enough. Experience is a good thing, but not essential to enjoying being sexual with someone.
Depression is more than a Blue Day, sadness, or even a broken heart, although it happens because of such things and feels a lot like the blues. If you’ve ever had a real depression, you know what I mean. Depression is usually seen as something that requires medication to relieve and sometimes it’s simply taken for granted that you must learn to live with it … forever, more or less.
As if "Kennedy" and "sex" didn't already go so well together in a sentence, now Arnold Schwarzennegger (who became a wannabe-honorary Kennedy by marrying Maria Shriver Kennedy) has publicly announced that not only did he violate his marriage with Maria, but that he had actually fathered a child…with a member of the house staff…and that it all happened TEN YEARS AGO!
The break-up between Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver reached such epic proportions of tragedy this week, that I prefer to start this post with a joke. I was visiting Washington, DC , and got horribly lost. I asked a passer-by directions to the White House. He looked me up and down and finally said "Well, I wouldn't start from here."
Taking a vacation as a couple can help you build memories that will carry you through the tough times relationships experience with everyday life. When we go away we are usually more carefree and it is easier to be present with our mate. Studies have shown that experiencing new situations together brings couples closer: going on a holiday can be an opportunity for couples to grow more deeply in love.
We have all gone through a lengthy recession. Business is beginning to pick up, more people are working, but we aren't out of the woods yet. Couples continue struggling with financial stressors-higher food costs, higher gas prices, and dual incomes becoming single household incomes with unemployment. Forbes Woman and the National Endowment for Financial Education (NEFE) surveyed 2,019 adults from December 17th through December 21st of 2010 and found big money crimes among marriages. The leading money crimes were hiding cash, as well as minor purchases and bills.
Lucky us: We live in a world where many of us have an abundance of choices: where to live, what to do for a living, and, of course, who to marry—or whether to get married at all. All these choices give us certain freedoms, but they don’t necessarily make us happier. They create certain perfectionistic expectations: If we aren’t perfectly happy with the one we love, for example, might we have chosen wrong? Should I make a different choice now? Would the grass be greener with my high school sweetheart?