What's the Best Kept Secret of Divorce? As a therapist with over fifteen years experience, I hear a lot about divorce, particularly divorces where children are involved. While most of what I hear relates to the trauma and pain of divorcing, I have noticed a surprising sentiment among many divorces: people secretly like their time off from parenting. A newly divorced client in her forties puts it this way:
Although a woman’s monthly periods and the roller coaster moods that go with them are widely known and parodied, it turns out men have a mood altering pattern all their own. One reason the male cycle is so poorly understood is because a man’s testosterone level, the driver behind his cycle, changes rapidly with his environment and moods, so measuring it can be challenging. But here’s what we know: 1. The male cycle occurs once every 24 hours, with peaks 6 or 7 times a day and smaller fluctuations occurring every 15 to 20 minutes.
I’ve spent the better part of a week thinking about what to say regarding Arnold and Maria. I’ve been asked by just about every woman I know what I think about it. People have asked me about my thoughts partially because I spend a great number of my waking hours thinking and talking about relationships. Partially I’ve been asked because I had a marriage that ended with a husband who had multiple affairs. Mostly though, it comes up in conversation because I am a woman. When events like this happen it effects the force of all woman-kind. We all feel it.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S Maybe he was a cheater or porn addict. Maybe she never could get over that other boyfriend or worse, was still seeing him. Whatever the reason – ending a relationship where you have become close and attached to each other – is going to hurt.
Are you attracted to the bad boys, but still yearn for true love? Learn how to like Mr. Nice. Sharon is really excited about this guy she just met named Michael. He is really sexy and exciting, but always seems to call her at late night hours after a night out on the town and often cancels dates with her hours prior to their meeting. She knows he is unpredictable and admittedly non-committal, but she just can’t walk away because she thinks she’s in love.
How to transform the pain and suffering into happiness and delight Just recently I’ve conducted a workshop during which we have been exploring aspects of personal alchemy. We’ve experimented with ways to transform the lead within our life into the gold of loving relationships, connection to our inherent nature and expansion of consciousness.
The Marriage Puzzle: To Be Or Not To Be? This month I had a pleasure of being invited to a beautiful wedding. This invitation came over just a few weeks after the one of my young clients showed up in my office with a huge uncertainty about herself, her future life and most importantly, a big confusion about her previous relationship. This is what she sent me after this session:
Have you ever felt "magic" with a man? That connection and chemistry is almost impossible to describe to someone who doesn't have it, but it's even more impossible to ignore when you've got it. Well, believe it or not, there's other magic waiting for you beyond connections or chemistry when it comes to men, dating and relationships.
How many times have you waited too long for a man to call and ask you out again after you had an amazing time together? He seemed truly interested, but then you never hear from him again. Why does this happen for so many women? And what does it mean about men? Here are the different reasons men do this.
Many couples become so enmeshed with one another that they become one. Each partner believes that their lover is necessary for life. Their relationship becomes everything to them. They forget their own individuality, becoming so preoccupied with making their relationship work. They forget about their own hobbies, family, friends, and everything else important to them. This is where the curse of codependency begins.