Articles by our experts in love, dating, sex and marriage
Are You Too Intimidating For Love?

Are You Too Intimidating For Love?

So, I had a first love. I am guessing at some point we all do.   Today isn’t about the magic of that first love or those slow/fast moments in the beginning, when I was so excited and crazy about someone that I felt like I was sick to my stomach pretty much the whole time.   Or when I couldn’t concentrate on the movie just because he was so close, so then there was a slew of movies I had to rewatch at a later time because I didn’t remember anything about them.  Or the moments that unfold when you sit there and re

3 Ways To Get Out Of The Doghouse [EXPERT]
Are you in trouble with your lover?

3 Ways To Get Out Of The Doghouse

When people find themselves in the doghouse in their relationship, they react in different ways like trying to minimize the situation and their partner's emotions, ignoring their partner's anger, apologizing immediately and profusely and/or purchasing gifts to try to make amends.

Why Breaking Down At The Store Is Good For Your Career

Why Breaking Down At The Store Is Good For Your Career

This weekend I spoke at an amazing women's leadership retreat in central California.  I have been here for two weeks, I met strong and lovely women, and I felt welcomed and at peace. I drove home, parked, and then headed off to the grocery store.  And while I was standing in the aisle looking for yogurt, I began to get emotional.  I picked up some cheese, started to get teary-eyed, and put it down and headed off towards the alcohol section where I felt like tears would be more acceptable.

He Cheated; Should We Get Divorced? [EXPERT]
Hillary overcame Bill's infamous infidelity.

He Cheated; Should We Get Divorced?

Since 1994, I have worked with thousands of marriages affected by infidelity. Sometimes the straying spouse is emotionally enmeshed with her paramour and intends never to return. Other times, the unfaithful mate feels remorse and asks for forgiveness and reconciliation. When that occurs, the hurting partner often struggles with deciding whether to divorce or give the wandering spouse another chance. If you face that decision, I suggest several things for you to consider.

3 Things to Know If  You're Dating  Someone Divorced

3 Things to Know If You're Dating Someone Divorced

Marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.  Samuel Johnson This is especially true when you're talking about remarriage.  In this day and age when just under half of first marriages fail, there is a good chance you may become involved with someone who has divorced.  The older you are, the more likely this is to happen. With second marriages failing at an even higher rate than first ones, there are a few things you should be aware of as you negotiate this relationship.

3 Rules for Sex When You Are Single or Dating

3 Rules for Sex When You Are Single or Dating

Most people want intimacy, want companionship, want sex, but there are some things you should know about getting intimate while single. I would definitely agree that many people who do often indulge in one night stands, or sex with no strings attached, are often-times looking for more than just sex, more than just a one-night stand in the long run, however the time and circumstances do need to be right. And, in the heat of the moment, a lot of our best laid plans fly out the window.

Relationships: Mysteries of Attraction

Relationships: Mysteries of Attraction

We are attracted to each other at our common level of woundedness and our common level of health. What does this mean? For example, Jackson, a very attractive man in his early 50s, had been married three times and had been in many relationships. He consulted with me because he was tired of going from relationship to relationship. He wanted a long-term relationship. "Even though each relationship seems to be very different than the last one, in the end they all turn out to be the same."

5 Ways To Avoid Sabotaging A First Date [EXPERT]
Logging in to emails after a first date could put you out of a second one.

5 Ways To Avoid Sabotaging A First Date

These are some tips and guidelines to help you make your online dating experience as great as possible and to give the best possible chance for things to work with a man you meet online. By doing a little less "checking in" on things and a lot more trusting, you will not sabotage a potentially great relationship.

6 Tips For A Successful Speed Dating Experience [EXPERT]
Not having enough time can't be an excuse to not date with speed dating as an option.

6 Tips For A Successful Speed Dating Experience

Even if you have limited time to spare, speed dating only requires an investment of two hours and it allows the opportunity to meet and connect with 20 plus singles who have all come to the event with the purpose of getting to know you. The more people you meet, the more of an opportunity you will have to socialize, practice your dating skills and possibly connect with someone who is a perfect match for you.