When relationships are not attended to regularly walls go up and intimacy goes down. Here are three of the main reasons that romance and intimacy disappear in relationships and what you can do to take charge of your relationship.
Jennifer is frustrated and depressed. She is tired of being single and all of the games that go along with dating. She is SO over spending her time with narcissists, liars, cheaters and weirdos. What Jennifer wants most of all is to meet and fall in love with a completely normal guy. More than anything, she wants to be in a relationship with a guy who has a job, keeps his word and knows how to talk and be with a woman. She wants someone who will treat her with respect and who will let her know that she really matters.
I remember vividly, one rainy, lonely Friday night, several years ago. It seemed the relationship with my real-life boyfriend was on the fast-track to destruction, for many reasons. When I was working and on the phone with callers, I was all fun; meanwhile, our relationship at home felt empty and devoid of any connection. I started to realize that we had no fantasies, no passion, and being together just wasn’t fun anymore.
Thanksgiving is just around the corner, a time to share the company of family over a table overflowing with comfort food. But for many of us, this time of year is a mixed blessing at best. For all the turkey, stuffing, potatoes, and pie, we often leave the table feeling profoundly empty inside.
Yesterday I caught myself in a space of worry. I am not a natural worrier, as many are, and for that I am very grateful. Although I am human and on occasion worry takes over my very being. This is the space I found myself in yesterday morning before the light of day.
This is the time of year when many of us are thinking a lot about gratitude. We gather together with family and friends and we give thanks for all of the blessings in our lives. Do you include your partner among that which you are grateful?
There are plenty of celebrated relationship obstacles. We're pretty aware of most of them, right? Money, religion, communication, race, class, national origin ... all the greatest hits. Virtually every dating and relationship expert has offered up their best advice on navigating those choppy waters — and why not? So much discussion, debate, and research has been had about those particular flashpoints, so it's difficult to understand why they remain problem areas at all.
One of the oldest and most defended characterizations of human nature is our innate desire to be hateful for no reason. Racism has been woven into the fabric of our culture, of our upbringing, and has long worked its way into our daily lives. And while racism still rules in smaller cities and communities throughout this great country, in larger, more culturally diverse cities like D.C., the nature of our diversity disproves the beliefs that racism is founded on. Right?
In the battle over gay marriage and equality, the question everyone has an answer for but nobody can agree on is the Bible’s view on homosexuality. According to author Jonathan Dudley, we’ll never agree on an answer to that question because our interpretations of the Bible are founded on preexisting values and beliefs.
Do less attractive people think the people they date (who also tend to be less attractive) delude themselves into thinking their dates are more physically attractive? According to new research, the answer is “no.” You remember that website that used to be popular, HOTorNOT.com, which allows visitors to rate the attractiveness of random, anonymous photographs, right? Well, researchers are using the site to conduct research into people’s attractiveness and perceptions of attractiveness, because now it includes a dating component too.