The second scarcity myth of love is “that’s just the way it is”, and there’s no way to change it. There’s not enough good men in my city, some people are just destined to be alone, I’m too old and relationships are not really meant to last forever. It’s not fair, I don’t like it, but.... *sigh*, that’s just the way it is. Oh well.
Lately there has been a proliferation of bad news: Slow economic recovery, a soft housing market, corporate insolvency, wars, violence, famine, natural disaster, and the cancelation of “Dog The Bounty Hunter.” Thus, rather than deal with anything too serious in this Election Day column, I decided to be a little more light-hearted. The following is the result - an ode to the bond between men and their “manhood.”
In my work as a marriage and relationship coach I encounter many people who are dealing with parenting challenges. I also see the effects of the parenting they received on their current relationships. Therefore I wanted to share these thoughts on parenting. A parent’s primary job is to reveal self-worth to their children. Self-worth is not to be earned or granted.
The joy of giving and the importance of being generous and thoughtful to others is an important and well-promoted concept. It’s hard to top the pleasure that comes from giving someone a much desired or needed gift. In fact, many of us have mastered the art of giving to others and are more recently learning how to give to ourselves. Giving and receiving have been positioned as opposites, with one better than the other, but I see it differently.
Many people take their political affiliations seriously. Perhaps you were brought up to revere Ronald Reagan while your partner thinks that Reagan's decisions are what got this country into big trouble. Maybe when you were a kid you helped your family put up yard signs for Bill Clinton but your partner has no respect for that former president's policies.
The Oscar contender, THE SESSIONS, starring Helen Hunt (Cheryl Cohen Greene), John Hawkes (Mark O'Brien) and William H. Macy (Father Brendan) deals head on with human sexuality and disability in all their complexities. The movie tells the story of Mark O'Brien, a 38-year-old Catholic virgin who has spent most of his life in an iron lung as a consequence of contracting polio as a child. His paralysis from the neck down leaves him reliant on others to take care of literally all of his physical needs.
This morning, as I was driving around trying to find a gas station that was both open and didn't have a three-hour long line, I started thinking about Hurricane Sandy and the devastation left in her wake. Normally, I only see natural disasters on the news, but this time, I had to look no further than outside the window of my home to witness Sandy's impact first-hand.
Did you know that there are more single people of all ages in the world today than ever before? In fact, 46 million people in the US are single right now. And there are so many different ways to meet your partner. There is online dating, speed dating, and Meetups and singles events. There are even highly skilled professional matchmakers you can pay to help you find love as opposed to something your meddling aunt did in her spare time! But no matter what method you use, there are three things you must have working for you to find love.
Why Does He Disappear? The hottest topic on most dating blogs usually involves the disappearance of men during the dating process. Why do they disappear after the first date? After the third date? After the third month? For the sake of space, let’s focus on the first few dates. Maybe you have been there…had an incredible date: conversation was stimulating, laughs were shared, and an electric kiss at the end of the night. Maybe he follows up with a text once he gets home and then…
I recently reconnected with a friend of mine from my single, dating days. Back then she and I were searching for Mr. Right together, and we spent a lot of time discussing the men we were dating and analyzing our various relationships. This woman is beautiful, talented, funny, very hip and is a lot of fun to be around. She's now in her mid-forties and single, but has found herself wondering if she's single because she's had such high standards over the years when selecting who she was willing to date.