It was Maya Angelou who said, “When people show you who they are, believe them.” Nowhere is this advice more true than in romantic relationships. Human beings are not that mysterious. We convey through spoken and non-spoken communication what our intentions are all the time. We are literally broadcasting ourselves to the world 100% of the time. Probably the most important thing you can do to have an awesome relationship is to listen and observe. Being observant is such a rare skill these days that it could almost be termed a super power.
When you tell your wife you are truly listening and paying attention, it is very important to mean it. This is because your wife knows when you are actually paying attention and when you are not. You might look like and act like you're listening, but your wife intuitively knows that you're really tuning her out!
This should be true for everyone. But most of the time it’s not. Today, kids are often taught that failure is OK. They get A’s for effort and a trophy for participating. In the real world, failure is not OK and successful achievement is rewarded. By nature, kids are hardwired to succeed. Perseverance is an instinctive trait. For example, how many times does the average child try to walk before he or she gives up? They don’t give up. They never give up. They do whatever it takes to get from here to there. They keep trying and trying and trying.
If you are a Time reader, or are aware of the front cover controversy this week, you may have been extremely unnerved by the mom with her 3 year old sucking on her breast. I have a boy the exact same age and when Judah was born I felt extreme pressure from other Moms to breastfeed. He had formula and breast milk for 4 months. And even though he was on the ‘dreaded’ formula it didn’t affect his health or our ability to bond in the slightest.
The good news is that there are things you can do to help manage your stress and rediscover a more powerful and emotionally balanced you. Take a look at these six ways you can help reduce your S.T.R.E.S.S. levels.
Dear Dr. Romance: I met a cute guy that's a foreigner in the USA from Russia. So how do I make sure he's not looking for a visa green card marriage? Dear Reader: Whether or not he wants a green card isn't the real question. The real question is, does he have good character, and does he love you, and do you love him? Take your time to get to know him, and find out what makes him tick. Does he have a job here? How is he making a living?
Some of my friends have been concerned about how many partners they have been with. Many have been with an insane amount of people and some have had sex with a relatively small amount. But my question is, where is the sliding scale? How many is too many and how many is to little? With our lives fueled by sex, I wonder if people truly think there is a specific number you should stop at or stride for?
Today's Positive Interaction uses several different couple building skills. It requires you to communicate, and it helps to strengthen the positive connection between you in the bedroom. In Tuesday's article, The Top 5 Problems With Sex Today, I mentioned that people are getting too much information from the Internet, and not enough from their partner. Getting information from the Internet is, by its nature, impersonal.
Here is a smattering of tips from my latest book, "Dating DeMistyfied, 101 Online Dating Tips." I've left out much of "the meat and potatoes," but left in enough content for you to get an indication of what you will learn from this book. This book was written from 10 years of Internet dating experience, thousands of interviews with both men and women and research garnered from our last five to six Dating DeMistyfied Workshops.
Many people are “relentless” givers. They give and give to another and when it is not appreciated, the giver becomes upset and indignant. How can you treat me like this after all I’ve done for you? Are you someone who goes into relationship after relationship giving and giving and receiving nothing, not even appreciation, in return? Do you always find yourself saying, “I’m such a good person. I’m so generous.