I’ve been in two imaginary relationships. Both times I was head-over-heels in love, and both times I ended up dumped for another woman. See, in both relationships, things started out casual. There were no strings attached and we were just having fun. At first, I was happy about the arrangement, because I didn’t feel smothered or pressured into making big decisions about commitment or accountability.
Have you ever encountered those people who will never admit that they did or are doing something wrong? They always have an excuse as to why it's ok or how it is someone else's fault? Always on the defensive. Don't waste your breath on telling them why they are wrong, majority will never admit to it. Their ego gets in the way of that. But the real question is, why do you NEED them to admit to their fault(s)?
When it comes to being sensitive to body language, subtext or nuanced meanings, men are not only clueless, we are just this side of brain-dead.
It’s early November and Miranda feels her tension levels rising with each passing day. The Holidays are approaching, and she dreads this time of year because she knows she’ll eventually have to see her Mother-in-law. Miranda doesn’t exactly know why her relationship with her Mother-in-law is strained, but whenever she sees them, she seems to make it abundantly clear that Miranda is not part of their family. For example, even though she’s been married to her husband Sean for eleven years, whenever there’s a family photo taken, her Mother-in-
As a counselor, I often work with people who are unhappy in their relationship and thinking of leaving. They believe that they are unhappy because of their partner, but the real reason is that they are not taking responsibility for their own feelings within the relationship.
Times are tough right now and holidays are right around the corner and so are lots of expenses. Every one of us is scratching our heads and trying to figure out ways to bring in some extra cash. You may need extra money to buy gifts or just to pay the rent.
Challenges. We all have them. Whether they are work, personal, spiritual, emotional, or physically related. There is not one person alive that can say that they have not faced something in their life that they were not sure that they would defeat. But they do- sometimes not how you imagined it, but you fight your way through it. You learn about your grit. Your worth. Your character. YOU.
If you haven't heard this yet, hear it now. You've got to learn to love yourself! Are you still single? Yeah, still single? Damn. Right. Yeah. I know you are missing love and wanting love and hoping for love. But let me interrupt... first you have got to love yourself. It’s time to make a shift gay girl. You’ve got to love yourself and stop waiting for love to show up in someone else. You are already full of it; love that is but you’re not using it.
There is a point of choice. Yes, it's easy to feel frustrated, cold, crabby, temporarily doomed and miserable. These feelings are normal in the wake of a disaster of this proportion. Tension, anxiety, overwhelm, helplessness and depressed feelings are all part of it. You can choose to fight these feelings or sink in them. Sinking is normal but don't stay there too long.