Insecurity, a fear-based emotion, exists in relationships where trust has never been established nor proven. It has the ability not only to paralyze a relationship, but also to shatter it. Fear, the prime component of insecurity in relationships, and jealousy, a derivative of fear, all come together to create a perfect storm.
In the age where women are just as powerful as men where do we draw the line of men using women and women using men? Is it still taboo to say that if a man is living off of a woman than he is less of a man? Or are we past that stage because of the current generation? The current generation has shown that women can be just as successful or even more so than a man. Since that's the case do we throw out our previous beliefs that our parents and grandparents has instilled in us?
Love. We all want it. We develop many ways of trying to get love and be loved. From the time we are infants, we do not thrive without it. When we don’t get it, we may turn to many addictions to fill the emptiness that occurs when we don’t feel loved. When we feel loved we are on top of the world. Yet many people have a fear of loving. Not a fear of being loved—a fear of loving. Why Would Someone Fear Loving?
Sure, if you watch CNN (aka Constantly Negative News) too much or any news channel, you will hear the siren song of sadness, despair and horror that is happening at any given time around the world. I’m not saying to completely bury your head in the sand, but my question to you is, What are you focusing on?
Look Before You Leap! Today's subject is a little odd for me. I am usually the one cheering people on to take the LEAP into new and uncharted territory. In my work as a life coach, this is one of my favorite experiences to have with my clients. To encourage them to take risks and to do the things they are longing to do but have been afraid of attempting. Sometimes we need to LEAP into these things whole-heartedly and then find our way once we have arrived.
The OTHER-Mother When Mother's Day approaches each year, I usually go down memory lane a bit. I remember my own mother who passed away in 1970 at the age of 44. I take some time to commune with her spirit and thank her for all she imparted to me before she departed this earth. I also think of my own children and the wonderful experience I have had being their mother. There are so may cheesy yet true cliches that run through my head when I wander down that path.
Just For Fun! When I first started out as a Life Coach I was looking at possible niches for myself. One day I was listening to a talk radio show with a few of my favorite commentators discussing the issues of the day. The conversation turned to their personal lives and the subject of FUN came up. One of them said, "Fun? What's that? Having fun does not come easily to me." As I listened, I was stunned. Really? Could having fun actually be a challenge for some people?
Green Relationships I taught a Sunday School class once that included children ages 6-12. I wanted to teach the kids how to create a vision board as a fun way of seeing what was important to them and making their dreams a reality. One of the things I loved about this experience was the way it made clear what was going on inside these wonderful little humans. We had some of our best discussions during this project. The kids let down their guard and opened up more when they were looking at magazine pictures and had glue on their hands.
Relationship ''Red Flags' I am getting ready to launch the pilot of my new Radio Show -The Soul Mate Dating Game! I am excited to begin and engage with lovers of all stripes over the air waves. The show will be aimed at those folks who want to have a Soul Mate relationship. There will be a segment for people who are using on-line dating sites to find their very own Mr or Ms right. They will have the opportunity to interview likely prospects and choose one to go on a date with.
DEATH & TAXES I sat down at my computer to write this message 90 minutes before I actually got one word on the page. The first thing I did was hook my iPhone up to my computer for an update. This was something I had put off doing for at least a couple of months or more.