"Is this as good as it gets? Is this what love really is? There has to be something I’m not doing right.” “I’m over 40 and too old for love. I never get a second date and besides, all the good ones are taken anyway.” And the list of debilitating dating discussions just goes on and on. Sounds pretty dismal, doesn’t it? Are you ready to dig deep and become more conscious? "Consciousness comes when we stop judging ourselves and others."
With the millions of dollars, we’ll spend on presents for others this year, how many will stop to unwrap one of the greatest gifts you have to share with the world- yourself. Yes, you! She’ll outgrow the sweater from Macy’s and the iPod will eventually get played out, but you’re the gift that keeps giving!
How do you treat a woman once she decides to share her time with you? Ask yourself, “Who is the most important person in the room?” You had better have answered, “She is!” Don’t we want to give this special person — who treats us with such consideration and kindness — all that she deserves?
Do you know how sometimes you hear or read something and you just get the truth of it instantly? Well, this article is about those words I’ve heard that just struck me as true for me and that I could see instantly how they fit with what my spirit wants to express and to experience. I’ve compiled a list of short statements below that help to define an ideal relationship to me. Some of them are original thoughts as I’ve contemplated this list as it was growing over time and some of them I just heard and applied right away.
After my recent article “When a Woman Turns a Man’s Head” the question was raised: How do you handle your current woman’s feelings when you obviously notice another woman? The best advice I can offer is to be really with your woman when you’re with her. Give her your 100% when it is your time to be together. Be transparent with how you feel and what’s “up” with you. Let her know how important she is to you. Find out her “love language” (see book by Gary Chapman) and give affection in her preferred way.
You hear it all the time; “I am being good this year and not going to have xyz bad foods, so I don’t gain any weight.” This is the time of year when people join Weight Watchers and go on diets, so they can stay in control during the holidays. For some it works, and that holds out hope for everyone else. For the majority it not only does not keep them in control; the guilt, deprivation and old familiar patterns lead to giving up on the idea and then really over indulging since they blew it anyway. By the time New Year’s rolls around, they have put on nearly 10 pounds – twice the average holiday weight gain. Have you ever done this or know people who have? What happens in January when the holidays are over? Does this process get repeated?
I went to two parties last night. I still have three tonight and one tomorrow night. I haven’t decorated yet, and I need to because family is coming in over the weekend. I haven’t even started shopping yet. The kids are coming in four days to bake cookies and pies. School plays and performances are coming up next weekend. These are the type of thoughts going around during the holidays.
There are cookies to be baked, candles to be lit, ornaments to be hung, and cards to be mailed out. Of course, there are also questions to be answered from unknowing relatives like ... Are you dating anyone?
A wonderful way to connect with your partner when you first meet after a long day is a simple tantric hug. This is a gentle, yet effective, way to tune your energies by simply placing your bodies together. When you’re in closer energetic harmony, then it is easier to move to greater intimacy or you may just allow the loving touch to be a renewing contact.
We are all familiar with alternate giving when it involves foot rubs, massage and oral honoring of a partner. But, who ruled that we always have to each be kissing each other at the same time? My intimate partner and I choose to incorporate alternate kissing into our tantric play. Imagine your lover gently, slowly, sweetly kissing your heart, neck, face and mouth while you just soak in the sensation and love energy of the moment. Can you be with the exquisite sensations and just be still?