The cloud 9, all sex, all the time stage of your relationship is over with an exclamation point. Perhaps you’re nearing your first anniversary, or exhausted all the time by the demands of parenthood and career. Maybe you’re empty nesters who are gamely if awkwardly adjusting to being alone again.
It can be uncomfortable and maybe even a little scary to realize that you don't necessarily like your spouse. There might not be anything horribly wrong with your partner... except for those dozens (or more) of "little" things that you disapprove of or that get on your nerves. These "little" irritations may be things that you bite your lip and remain silent about, or they could be what you nag and fight about.
Do you find yourself wondering again this year, why did I bother to make resolutions? Each year draws to a close with unmet resolutions and feelings of depression can soon ensue. You can make this coming year different with a few easy changes! It all starts with dreaming! Simply dreaming though does not help in having a successful year. You’ve dreamily made resolutions, writing them down and promptly forgot them. Is it any wonder that many fall by the wayside before the end of January!
While it's true that the largest portion of sex life coaching that Betty and I do for our clients surrounds the exciting subject materials, we also are there to coach clients through relationship issues as they pertain to their shared sex life. This is a blog on my most recent session with a couples client we'll call, "Judy and Keith." They gave me permission to discuss these specific sections of their coaching.
There are more individuals “coming out of the closet” to live their sexual truths than ever before in history (well at least it appears that way!). Why? The most obvious reason is that homosexuality is becoming more accepted.
You've pretended that the problems weren't there. You've thought and thought about the troubles in your marriage searching for a solution. You've talked and maybe even argued with your partner about this challenge you face. Maybe you two have stopped talking about your marital problem because it feels too big and impossible to deal with.
The quest to find love is as old as the fairy tales we've read about; knights in shining armor coming to save damsels in distress and a kiss turning a frog into a prince. But alas, if finding love were as easy as reading fairy tales, we'd all be in better shape. The truth is, it's rough out here for various reasons I'll write about at a later date. Why make a challenging situation even harder by erecting the added barriers of race and ethnicity?
YourTango Expert Delaine Moore investigates what's really happening in the bedrooms of divorced and single moms. Are single moms attending to their sexual needs? Are they quietly abstaining or could it be that a revolution of sorts is happening and more moms are having unattached sex than ever?
Question:I am in a beautiful relationship that seems quite solid but he has not said that he loves me. Who should say I love you first?” – Tanus D., Calgary AB Answer: Tanus, I am SO glad you wrote in – I’m always thrilled to hear when past graduates meet a great guy. Many women are in the dark about how to handle this the right way – and overjoyed you’ve provided the opportunity to clear this up both for you AND all my other readers.
Question: "I have met a wonderful man but the sex isn’t great and I am wondering how do I approach or discuss it with him without making him feel inadequate and get my own needs met?” – R.G., Calgary AB Answer: Appreciate you writing in A.G with this very important and sensitive question. Matters of the heart are tricky enough, add sex into the mix and it can easily become a minefield.