"What should I do if my partner won't go to counseling?" I often hear this from my clients. What are they really saying with this question? Generally, they are saying something like: "My unhappiness is coming from my partner's behavior," or "The problems in our relationship are my partners' fault," or "My partner needs to change for me to be okay."
The Wall Street Journal recently published an article about flirting which discussed the ups and downs of this feminine art. The piece says experts consider flirting to have sexual or romantic implications with that goal in mind. I whole heartedly disagree!
Instead of lavishing money and attention on your spouse a few times a year,lavish curiosity on them throughout your time together. Adopt an approach of open, engaged interest. When you're curious, you learn new things about your mate—his desires, fears and struggles. You'll hear secrets, wishes, regrets. You'll learn practical things, like what she really would like to do on her birthday.
The Holidays are not easy for a lot of us. For many suddenly being put together with relatives or in-laws or even certain friends, or maybe having no one to be with, all of these combinations plus the memories the holidays evoke and the yearnings of anticipation set us up for a miserable time. How can we overcome this scenario and have a great time? Here are are some solutions based on real people.
You've joined an online dating site and are excited to meet new people and explore possibilities. Finally, you discover one person in particular with whom you have a lot in common and feel that wonderful bubbly sensation of looking forward to meeting and deepening the relationship. Yet, you begin to notice a few things.
The post Thanksgiving season has been criticized as a time of greedy frenzy, when the balance sheets of retailers are swept into the black by waves of frantic shoppers bingeing on the illusions of good deals and marching to the mantra of “What can I get for Christmas?” Although much of the shopping is ostensibly for gifts for others, part of the excitement is the prospect of winning a game with sellers, competing for the best “savings,” and being the first in your peer group to finish your Christmas shopping.
If you are like me, you probably keep a pretty tight schedule. Work, family, friends and dealing with life’s little crises can occupy a lot of your time. Before you know it, you realize that there’s something missing… Your love life has been pushed to the backburner and has pretty much become non-existent.
According to the calendar, it's time for all of us to be of good cheer. According to the media (and peer pressure and our own internal pressure), it's also apparently time to have great sex, and plenty of it.
Are you ready for a relationship? As a matchmaker for gay men, I make it a point to begin each of my consultations with this question and of course the general response is yes. If they didn’t feel that they were, they probably wouldn’t be sitting in my office, but there’s a huge difference between wanting a relationship and being ready for one.