You've done everything you can to make the marriage work. You've been to more than one marriage counselor, you've read every book on how to make a marriage great, and you've struggled with the consequences for both you and your children on calling it quits. You've come to the painful conclusion that no matter how much you want your marriage to work, it simply does not. You submit to the reality of divorce and you're ready to take that final step out of your marriage and into the unknown territory of navigating a divorce.
You may have tried different tactics based on the advice you received on the proper behavior for landing a man. The real secret to attracting lasting love is through something unseen. You may seem like a grown-up but do you show up on a date feeling like a helpless little girl with her ruffled panties? You look sexy, but are your actions and energy reflecting your insecure younger self?
“Ask and ye shall receive.” Try it. Enough with the vacillating. Extinguish the proverbial second guess. You deserve what you want. So speak up. Few people are mind readers. We can’t expect others to just “know.” When you cease to express your needs, wants, and desires, you suspend the right to be disappointed when you don’t get what you want. Ask your manager, the universe, your lover, the saleswoman, the barista behind the Starbucks counter.
There’s no avoiding them. Don’t cover them up. Don’t pretend they don’t exist. Really, really don’t blame someone else. Own it. It’s probably you’re fault, anyway. Look, you’re going to ‘eff up. You have before. And you will again. You’ll wish you did. You’ll wish you didn’t. You’ll wish you said this or didn’t say that.
I suck at: spelling reading directions anything math-related (I still count on my fingers) having patience for objects with an “ON/OFF” switch doing one thing at a time being told what to do being on time (I’m always 5-7 minutes late. (Sorry) being interested in politics reporting to a cubicle (The neon lights, industrial carpet and institutional nature of it chokes my soul and depresses my creative juju.)
We've all been there; you and your boyfriend have been together for what seems like forever. You've even mentally designed the ideal wedding, kitchen island counter-top and the kids' school graduation. But lately, the relationship is hitting the skids and getting through an average day feels like wading through knee-deep Mississippi mud. You thought you'd found "the one," but recently you've been left second guessing. How can you tell when your relationship has gone on too long? I've outlined four ways to knowing when it's time to hit the road.
Sex is something that is so natural and fun, but at times, can be confusing and complicated. Here are five myths about sex that you probably wonder about.
Your friend texts you about their frustrating day, your taxes have to be filed, the radio spouts news of another disaster somewhere, and you still haven’t taken your car in for its oil change. With the wonders of technology and high-speed interaction between us all, we’re finding it more and more difficult to keep our mental machinery chugging away at optimum performance. What you need is scheduled maintenance.
When my husband of two years said to me “I don’t know if I can do this anymore,” I reacted like most- I groveled. I said I would change. Things would be different. I wouldn’t nag him so much, require so much, ask as much. I would keep it together all the time. I would do the things he wanted.
Sex. The word itself used to make people uncomfortable. But now, more than ever, women are branching out in their sexual behaviors, and discovering what gets them going. From incorporating sex toys in the bedroom to paging through 50 Shades of Grey, women are mixing it up and increasing their pleasure in the process.