If you agreed to one or more of these surrogate markers for being stuck on your ex, chances are pretty good that you have not gotten over the divorce or breakup. Thankfully, getting unstuck starts with the awareness that you are stuck. Once recognized, becoming unstuck is simply a matter of developing a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA).
If you ask almost any overweight person, "Do you really want to lose weight?" the answer is likely, "Yes, I would love to lose weight." Most overweight and obese people want so much to lose weight that they spend billions a year trying, so why is our country growing fatter? Why aren't people losing weight when they say that this is what they want to do?
I recently read a horror story of a woman who met a man on a dating site. He seemed perfect for her in every way. Within a few months she didn't know if she was coming or going and the man had stripped her of money, personal information and dignity. How could this have happened?
The fact of the matter is, it’s ok to feel bad after a break up. Especially if you have been together for a long time. You have shared everything from checking accounts to the same tastes in DVR recordings. You have to allow yourself time to heal. Whatever reason the break up occurred , whether it was one sided or not, you are left with half an empty closet where before you didn’t have enough space for your “too many shoes.” That extra set of dishes you kept in
In the time since becoming a therapist, I have yet to have one client ask me where I received my master's degree, or where I did my training, or a word about my licenses. What clients want to know is, "Can you help me? Can you offer me anything at all that will bring me some relief from the pain I'm in?" Some also have other questions they may or may not be as likely to articulate, questions such as "Are you going to judge and reject me if you know the 'real' me? Are you going to understand me?
When a man finds a woman interesting and attractive, he will usually make the first move and approach her to speak with her. Women do not usually speak with every man that wants to buy them a drink, but most women will if he is a “bad boy.” Players, playboys, heart breakers; what ever you want to call this type of man: this is the type of guy that some women seem to be intrigued by. But what exactly does the bad boy possess that the nice guy doesn’t?
When our relationships begin to fail us, do we become more in-tune with the other person, or do we tend to shift to communicating in styles that are automatic? When we become more stressed out, is it easier to listen to the other person, or does the voice in our head over power our best intentions, because we want our needs met first?
No person can actually cure another person's addiction; they have to recognize they have lost power over their own behavior and recognize the need to change. There are some experts who will recommend you either make them quit or you leave. This may work temporarily, but if the motivation to change is not internally motivated, there will be no lasting change.