Articles by our experts in love, dating, sex and marriage
Can Watching Pornography Really Help My Relationship?

Can Watching Pornography Really Help My Relationship?

Clients are constantly asking me under lowered voices if Pornography can really help their relationship. Regardless of sex being used in advertisments all over the television, pornography is still getting a bad rap and is still considered taboo. It’s unfortunate because watching pornography can totally help a relationship. When you watch it you are stimulating your sexuality. For people that tell me they just don’t feel sexual, I always reply back with – well, how often are you putting yourself in front of sexual matters?

Emotional Hygiene

Emotional Hygiene

Recently, I had a minor but difficult surgical procedure to lance an abscess on my leg. It was very painful, and while I recovered physically pretty quickly, I had some Post -traumatic stress reactions—bad dreams, flashbacks, and upset—after my recovery. I had to acknowledge my upset and feelings, and let them out before the stress reactions subsided. I often help my clients do this, too, not only with PTSD from shocking or painful experiences, but also with grief and old memories.

Don't Be Sorry—Use Apologies

Don't Be Sorry—Use Apologies

Apologies are much more than a trite or perfunctory exercise, the kind of half-hearted statements we might have offered as children when we were told to apologize for something we’d done. On the contrary, when coupled with genuine self-reflection, an apology can go a long way in repairing trust and re-establishing connection. Stepping forward when we’ve erred or hurt someone is ennobling and promotes reconciliation.

Dating Q and A:  Did Polyamory Replace Monogamy?

Dating Q and A: Did Polyamory Replace Monogamy?

Dating Question for Hadley: I received a shocking invitation from a widowed man I met on a dating site.  We live 2000 miles apart, so we're building a friendship in video chats and being long-distance cheerleaders for each other as we adjust to single life.   He said he wanted to meet me in person and asked if I would consider a polyamory relationship with him. A what?

Do you want to change someone badly?

Do you want to change someone badly?

I am the worst offender when it comes to the following issue. It can literally break up any kind of relationship. It can harm the relationship you have with your man, mother, father, sibling, or friend. A couple of weeks back, my husband (Hemal) and I had a squabble. This is how it went down… Hemal came home from a final round interview for a new job position that he has been scoping out and wanting for a while. I asked him how it went.

My Life as a Phone Sex Operator - Part 8

My Life as a Phone Sex Operator - Part 8

I was sitting in the nail salon the other day having my bi-weekly pedicure and manicure, when a couple of “upper class” women waltzed in. We all exchanged smiles and hellos. I’ve seen the one woman a few times, so we have the ability to chat a little to break up the silence. This day however, I wasn’t so talkative; I was a voyeur, listener. The big discussion was the newest novel, “50 Shades of Grey”.