Anger management designed to help you keep your power and stay cool. “Anger management” to some people may mean keeping his/her anger inside by holding that anger in or “stuffing” it. This form of “management” is like blowing a little air into a balloon each time you are frustrated, angry, mad, irritated, or annoyed. Each time you “stuff” your anger, you fill the balloon with a little more air.
As a relationship counselor, I am constantly being asked why so many relationships fail. In the many years that I have worked with couples, I have discovered five major relationship killers: Controlling Behavior Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear motivates various forms of controlling behavior. Controlling behavior falls into two major categories – overt control and covert control.
“It takes a really big man to love a really big scar.” –Carly Simon I worked for nine years in Lubbock, Texas as an intimacy and sex counselor for cancer patients. They taught me more than any textbook or class. I celebrated their success with them, prayed for their healing with them, and sat by their bedside with their loved one when they took their last breaths. Many people would call that a depressing job, but I never lived as fully as when I worked with this population.
Have you ever seen yourself naked and wondered, “…what on earth happened here…”? We’ve all had those moments where you push back the shower curtain and the mirror across the way shows every little imperfection, blemish and bumps (or is that “rolls“?) If you’re so fortunate as to not have a mirror across from the shower, perhaps you’ve caught a glimpse of yourself as you scamper across the room to get ready.
Some of the most difficult choices we are faced with have to do with those we love. There is a great power in choice, but sometimes it is incredibly difficult to know if we are making the right decision when it is a matter of pursuing or ending a relationship with someone who has our heart. You may be making excellent choices in nearly all areas of your life, but are you choosing well in love? How do you really know when it is time to call it quits?
Men's bodies need the time to sit and do nothing. If you knew why men need time to relax, then will it save your relationship? I think it just may. Equally important, women need time to nurture themselves and connect with other women. Read on for the science behind the phenomenon. The stress-reducing hormone responsible for lowering your stress level is different depending on your gender. For men--the stress-reducing hormone is: TESTOSTERONE. For women--the stress-reducing hormone is: OXYTOCIN. The way we reduce our stress actually increases stress in the opposite sex.
COMMUNICATION USING IMAGO By Tammy Nelson, PhD The Imago Dialogue process is a type of communication developed by Harville Hendrix, the bestselling author of Getting the Love You Want, a book about communication and couple’s therapy. The dialogue is a structured technique that you can use to talk to communicate when you are frustrated or just want to feel closer. This dialogue is a wayto talk about conflict in your relationship that lets you each feel heard. To practice the technique, first ask your partner,
One question I get asked often when a client comes to me for guidance in finding a romantic partner is “ am I aiming too high”? Is it really possible for me to find a soul mate or is that something only found in fairy tales. After we have established that it is not only possible it is very worthwhile and can be one of the most fulfilling experiences a person can have the conversation turns to the HOW. How does one go about finding a soul mate?
Close to my house, and on my way to just about every place I drive, there is a five way intersection. If you’ve ever been through a five way intersection, you know that things can get a little dicey when there are more than a couple cars at any one time. As long as everyone can count, and follows basic rules of courtesy, things can flow pretty smoothly. Introduce an uncertain or aggressive driver into the mix, however, and things can go bad very quickly!
Emotional resilience—the ability to bounce back from failure, or perceived failure, and delay gratification—is at the heart of children's emotional and social development. A child going back to school, especially if she's changing schools and taking on more academic and social complexities, can feel as though she's taking the ultimate resliency test. As parents we see, hear and feel the emotional fallout at the end of the school day and desperately want to help our kids make it through these challenging transitions.