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3 Ways To Get More Love In Your Life

No matter where you are on your journey to romance there is always a reason to increase the love in your life. The magical thing about love is that it's free; you can't buy it, trade it or win it in a lottery. Love is an action you extend to others that benefits you more than it does them.  

Does Your Morning Routine End Up Ruining Your Day?

Does Your Morning Routine End Up Ruining Your Day?

For many of us it's a battle to get out of the house in the morning. It's all we can do to get dressed and get everyone to where they need to be on time. What is the best solution to stop the frenzy? Before reading further, what you need to know is that creating your ideal routine will ultimately be all about you. Your routine as a student might look a lot different from you as a young professional, a Mom with 3 kids on school schedule, a retiree, an astronaut, an athlete, someone with special needs, or anything in between.

The Sucker Punch

The Sucker Punch

They come out of nowhere.  And we are never prepared for them. I call them sucker punches.  Divorce sucker punches; or the moments that unexpectedly take our breath away.  You know what I am talking about, because we all experience them.  They are waves of sadness, loss, loneliness and grief that are triggered by something completely unexpected. 

17 Great Chicago Fall Date Ideas

17 Great Chicago Fall Date Ideas

So you met a great date at one of our Nut & Bolts Singles Parties last month and now you need to impress them with a great an unique date? Easy! It’s fall in Chicago- here are the best things to do in fall in Chicago. Surprise your date with one of these top fall date ideas and you’ll be cozied up with them all winter!  

Ten Commandments on Relationships

Ten Commandments on Relationships

I believe we’ve lost touch on the value of our relationships. People seem to spend more time and money on their hair, toys, and possessions than they do on their relationships. I’m not sure when we crossed over into the land of disconnect but it saddens me that we’ve become a society obsessed with instant gratification, magical solutions, constant stimulation, ten second attention spans, and never ending to-do lists. Our need to get more, do more, and have more, has outweighed our basic human need for connection, centeredness, and cooperation.

SLOW SEX: THE ABSENCE OF PURPOSE AND HURRY

SLOW SEX: THE ABSENCE OF PURPOSE AND HURRY

  If you are hurried in everything else, you will be hurried in sex. A person who is very time-conscious will be hurried in sex almost as if time is being wasted. So we ask for instant coffee and we ask for instant sex. With coffee it is good, but with sex it is just ridiculous! There can be no instant sex. It is simply not something that you can hurry. Through hurry you will destroy it, and you will miss the very point. To enjoy sex a sense of timelessness must be felt. If you are in a hurry, then the feeling of timelessness cannot be experienced.

Get back the sexual intimacy in your relationship

Get back the sexual intimacy in your relationship

Marriage is a partnership and that includes making each other happy sexually, not by having sex but by creating sexual intimacy. Anyone can have sex or perform the act of intercourse, but sexual intimacy is another aspect that is often over looked. As a clinical sexologist and marriage counselor that is the area of marriage that I help couples to improve upon. Once the sexual intimacy is brought back into the marriage, the couple will feel a renewed sense of closeness in the relationship.

Is Finding Mr. Right Like Winning the Lottery?

Is Finding Mr. Right Like Winning the Lottery?

I remember having many conversations with my girlfriends about what we thought was the statistical likelihood of finding our very own Mr. Right. You see, like many of us, back then I believed there was only one single Mr. Right meant for me; my soul mate; the one. And after looking at our ever growing lists of must haves, and how many men in any given population would meet those criteria, we all came to the conclusion that our odds of meeting him were not greater than about one in ten million.

A Blueprint For The "Perfect" Date

A Blueprint For The "Perfect" Date

1. Blueprint for the “Perfect” Date Throughout the years, men have always asked me: “How do I make that first date as perfect as she expects it to be?” (After all, first impressions are everything, right?) Granted, every date is different, but I’ve come up with a checklist of some of my favorite tactics that leave her glowing at the end of the night… In fact, these are so good, she’ll be texting or calling you within the next 24 hours expecting more of the same!