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Halloween Weddings: Fab Or Frightening? [EXPERT]
How will you make your fall wedding ghoulishly glamorous?

Halloween Weddings: Fab Or Frightening?

A bridal party dressed as fairies and pirates? Freshly carved pumpkin centerpieces? Frankenstein groom and a equally frightening bride? A hand-tied bouquet crawling with rhinestone spiders? Halloween weddings are a real thing and it might be the theme of your upcoming nuptials.

Watching pornography can be considered cheating in your marriage

Watching pornography can be considered cheating in your marriage

As a clinical sexologist and relationship counselor I have been asked on many occasions by people if I perceived that watching pornography while being in a relationship is considered cheating. My answer is based on how we define the word “cheating”.  As a counselor I have seen all too many relationships destroyed by lack of open honest communication between husband and wife.  The definition that I feel is appropriate to us

How To Talk To Your Kids About Your Divorce [EXPERT]
What would you say?

How To Talk To Your Kids About Your Divorce

As if getting divorced isn't difficult enough, add kids into the mix and you've got a whole extra layer of complications. What should you say to them? What should you avoid saying? How can you help them through it?

Break The Connection Before You Break Your Wallet

Break The Connection Before You Break Your Wallet

As mentioned in a previous article, the duration of separation is lengthy, averaging over three years. In working with our clients, we’ve found that that the major reason for the man to delay filing for divorce is fear of loss; the emotional connection with your spouse, not seeing your kids every day, and a big decrease in your finances.

Why You Should Have A Relationship Coach

Why You Should Have A Relationship Coach

As a relationship coach, one of the most frequent questions I get asked is - What is a coach and what do you do?  Some people are best able to relate to the sports analogy of coaching.  Think about a two person athletic team [e.g.volleyball, synchronized diving, rowing] and why they would hire a coach.  The reasons and motivations vary - some people believe and/or feel that they have basic talents and would like to develop them to the next level.  Others think or feel that they need an objective party to observe [in the case of a relationship coach it would be about l

Self Acceptance And The 2012 Election

Self Acceptance And The 2012 Election

With the 2012 presidential election looming like a vulture over an antelope carcass, we often feel the need to justify our position on this important choice to those around us, especially our mates.  We can often plead the fifth when others issue political proclamations, but when you start reviewing your ballot at the kitchen table and your husband walks in and says, “So, honey, who ya voting for?” It is difficult to say, “No comment.”  Then, he disagrees with you and begins to give reasoned arguments about why your decision is irrational.  You get

Horror Movie Love: Spook Your Dates Like Norman Bates
Learn how to be a thriller, not a date killer.

Horror Movie Love: Spook Your Dates Like Norman Bates

What went wrong? You wonder. You start to question your intuition. Then you make up reasons why he didn't call or text or anything else for that matter. There will be no more pairings of wine and cheese or your lips with his lips ever again. So why didn't he call you? It's probably not the reasons you think. But let's dive into a few of the stories we can tell ourselves.

When Is It Helpful To Share Your Feelings?

When Is It Helpful To Share Your Feelings?

"I just have to tell you how I feel. I'm very upset about what you did." "I'm really angry with you." "I just want to be honest with you. I'm so hurt by what you said." Each of these statements is a sharing of feelings. Yet the chances are the person at the other end of this sharing of feelings will feel attacked and respond defensively. So what's the problem? Aren't we supposed to share our feelings?

Help! I Just Want To Be Friends

Help! I Just Want To Be Friends

In a full day VIP session that took place a month ago with a client, I discovered a pattern that I have to share with you! My client, let’s call her Sandra, was extremely frustrated with her dating life. The kind of guys she was attracting in were great: courteous, gentlemanly, respectful, had their shit together. They had stability in their life and careers, and when it came to continuing to date after the second or third date, she kept getting the “I just want to be friends.” She was like, “What am I doing wrong?!”

3 Golden Rules To Follow When Committing To A Therapist

3 Golden Rules To Follow When Committing To A Therapist

Our relationships are probably the most important aspect of our life.  As a relationship expert, I tell people that I specialize in relationship to others and yourself. It's my belief that the two very much go together. Clearly, whether it's concerning yourself or others, there are times when things are difficult, confusing or complicated.  Fortunately, in today's world, there's a great deal of information that is available to folks. Wonderful sites such as this one, books, CDs, etc.